But when you say things like "men masturbate more often than women do" or "men are generally willing to pay far more for sources of visual stimulation," you can't divorce that from culture. Those things may be generally true of American men, but because there are numerous cultures (not just Sudan) that have differing…

I also think a lot of this is changing - RAPIDLY. With social conditioning falling away, lots of women are becoming a lot more open about acknowledging their sex drive and acting on it, even as men have new alternatives - like internet porn - for satisfying their own sex drive, and also in some cases more partners to…

I still reject your assertion that men are more visually stimulated than women. It makes no sense from a physiological standpoint. I would wager that men consume larger quantities of porn than women not because they are more visually stimulated, but rather it is more socially acceptable (and indeed somewhat expected)…

Basically, because this woman is bringing in weird and gross variables (sexual activity of women) into analyzing relationships, she can't say "this is the only variable that matters!" If she's going to get gross and weird and sexist, she's going to have to consider other gross and weird variables in there too. Like…

See and I was like that about sex having been raised with the same background. I really don't know why I didn't think to masturbate. I don't know how old you are but I was raised pre-internet and a much less sexually explicit pop culture. I really didn't know how a woman would masturbate. My parents were so focused on…

I think that drive fluctuates and that it's something that's difficult to actually say what an average is. I know when my girls were little they masturbated a lot. Like a shocking degree to me. I had no idea that small girl children like to touch their vaginas pretty much all damned day if you let them. Because it…

It's funny how all these conservative assholes—-or any sexist asshole with repugnant views on women—— find that women have less sex drive than men do. Maybe just around you, asshole. It's like those MRAs who see false rape accusations everywhere because who can know what consent looks like, right? Shockingly…

God, it was such a disappointment when I started having sex and realized what men's sex drives and physical capabilities are actually like. I fully expected to get laid multiple times daily because hey, men think about sex every seven seconds, right? The only reason men aren't constantly having sex is because the…

oh, this shit is so dumb. it comes up in various contexts from time to time - the economics of dating, supply and demand of OKCupid or whatever - and it always comes across as like a school project done by some college freshman who got super inspired in his econ 101 class and began to see economics in, like,…

Why do none of these groups ever point out that study after study shows that men derive more happiness and satisfaction from marriage than women do? It's almost as if they feel women have to be culturally conditioned to fear being alone because if they weren't, they might find flying solo preferable to being married.…

It may be hard to accept, but even our private bedroom practices are often culturally conditioned. An example: An American friend married a Sudanese man. Sudanese culture teaches that it's women who have the stronger sex drives. They had serious marital problems because each of them would wait for the other to…

Women are taught that this is BAD and shameful. Women are taught to never talk about these things - porn, masturbation. Women are taught that men will not love them if they exhibit sexuality, but will not fuck them if they don't.

I'm not sure you can divorce any of that from conditioning, though. In college, my roommate literally didn't know that women could masturbate. It's not that she didn't want to; she had just never been exposed to the cultural narrative of female masturbation (while stories about teenage boys masturbating are…

You haven't the first clue what "most men" want, kiddo. Most men aren't little boys who think penises are so magical, they can change a woman's value as a human being. Those who do think this are egotistical and deluded, and can fuck right off.

Okay this is just me, but I had/have a crazy high sex drive. What kept me from Doing It with everything attached to a penis when I was single was: fear of pregnancy, and fear of rape. I'm super anciently old now, but I remember. I remember.

"On average, men have a higher sex drive than women. Blame it on testosterone, call it whatever you want—but on average, men initiate sex more than women, they're more sexually permissive than women, and they connect sex to romance less often than women."

I just came here to say... Lindy, you're amazing. I love your work and it's only getting better. Your longform pieces over the last year or so have been the light of Jezebel. Nice job.

I don't think there's a wrong way to interpret art though. You can certainly be frustrated that people do not glean the intent you were trying to put out into the world; I don't see how that wouldn't be frustrating. But people who consume your art are coming to it and viewing it through their own frame of reference…

Actually, I think she was trying to say something that was true but not insulting. It sounds like she was moved by it...just not in a positive fashion.

I don't think you can view a piece of art a wrong way. Everyone comes from their own background of experiences and these experiences weigh how we view the world. I think some people will experience the film as Jonze wants them to and others will have a completely different interpretation.