Ok then. If a rape victim's name becomes public and he/she has any online presence then it's totally conceivable that the internet should just have free will to do/say what they will.

That's just dumb. Unless I'm in airports which I know are videotaped like crazy and most people there have a common goal (past security), I never walk around with headphones on full blast. I turn it down just so I can hear what people I'm passing by say. Or if my six is covered in a subway or at a restaurant. I…

I'm a black-hearted asshole because I asked that a world-wide website such as Jezebel not continue to publish he & his fiancee's name, photos, registry, wedding date, etc. after he explicitly asked the press not to?

We can debate about celebs because most of them that I adore... I never hear about in the press. But this guy is a private citizen. Not a firefighter, not a cop, not a paramedic (which would have agencies or PR departments to deal with this stuff). He's a private citizen and he asked repeatedly not to be made the…

Quick question... ever served or worked with anyone in infantry, or SF, or medevac, or anything like that? People like Mr. Meis fit into that personality. He wants no attention and doesn't view his actions as anything 'heroic'. This is the 'people on the internet' swarming down on him and saying because *they* feel…

An act he explicitly requested not to be done-keeping him in the press. If we're all about respecting personal boundaries then maybe Jezebel can abide by its own standards. Whoever he potentially inspired is not something he asked for or wants a part of. Those people don't deserve his time or to have any 'connection'…

Not at all!!! I didn't mean to make you think that :D.

Ok... unless you're a celebrity. I've been on FB for 5 years and if I suddenly had a swarm of attention fall upon me I would probably be overwhelmed and have to go through every single photo to ensure each and every picture and post I put out was private. It takes more time than someone might think because if you're…

Agreed. I never denied it was a great story :). Not being argumentative because we are making the same point. Dude explicitly asked for no further attention and he's the hero in this situation so why do people have to latch on to his story?

I like you.

Exactly. It's pretty gross actually. He wasn't in need (that he made common knowledge), didn't ask for help yet people latched onto this cause and are proud of it. That says more about them saying 'look at MEEE!!!' than anything about him or his act of heroism

He asked for privacy so we're going to take our feels and publish his photos, he and his fiancee's registry and keep his name in the press on our international website.

I agree. Until our war against people thinking rape is 'ok' is won, we still have to take our own precautions. I agree that the focus is more on how people need to defend themselves against rape as opposed to continuously saying 'do not rape'. I too would like to see more messages about respecting other people's…

I ran a marathon in Sweden. I concur.

Poor Thailand :(. Such a beautiful country and so exploited by tourists.

Did you hit up the Park Hyatt?? I didn't even watch the movie until I stayed there and heard it had been filmed there while having driinks in the New York bar. At the end of the night I ordered it on PPV and ended up loving it :). Plus, that hotel is amazing.

I'm just trying to find appropriate avenues to ask questions without looking stupid or offending people. My life has been so alpha male and binary gender to the core up until this point and I'm in my 30's. So I'm (again not asking you to educate me as it's up to myself) just trying to find a way in this new world…

I sincerely apologize if my language was offensive as I didn't mean it to be. I was trying to express in layman terms a situation of which I have no real experience with. You are correct, that individual has always been a girl, adolescent girl teenager, and now full blown adult woman.

Thank you... and while you didn't ask for or need my support I'm giving it to you fully.

I don't even know what that means.