There is just no way our behavior evolved to survive in pairs. If anything it evolved to survive in groups and communal gangs.

Does it make a difference whether the mistreating party is a man or a woman?

Also good is to point out that when the average woman is PMSing her hormone profile is most similar to the average man's hormone profile. In other words, women at their "craziest" are governed by the chemicals that govern male behavior all the time.

Not really. If they had been honest from the beginning then there would have been no anger.

Yeah, what keythah said. I'm glad that you aren't controlling and creepy, and that you don't consider your fiance your ward. But based on the description you have of your relationship, it makes perfect sense that I deduced—not assumed—some things about you.

Oh, I don't think that violence done to a woman is more bad that violence done to a man—not at all. Violence is violence, and murder is murder, full stop. My concern is that violence against women is routinely minimized—rationalized ("she shouldn't have provoked him"), or reduced ("it wasn't THAT big a deal"), or…

You're right, that's a much better explanation. Thank you for clarifying and correcting.

As Petrie the Pterodactyl said, how long will she be dealing with the effects of those photos being public? Probably for the rest of her life.

Really? You can post nude pictures of your girlfriend against her wishes and not be a sex offender? WTF world?!

Well it's more complicated than just the fact that the governor could see them as humans instead inmates. The key is that inmates are human, and humans can do horrible things. Plenty of people whose loved ones did horrible, horrible things continue to hope that their loved ones will not go to jail, or refuse to…

Statistically speaking, you are far, far more likely than any stranger to rape, beat, and/or kill your fiance. Forbidding her from traveling alone not only makes you creepy and controlling, it also illustrates your utter misunderstanding of facts.

Hahahahahahahahaha. Right. His money and his fame are entirely unrelated to his race.

I remain at all times incredibly suspicious of all cops (not hating, just suspicious). However I have to say that in this case I think it's the higher-ups who shit the bed. Without the support—even nominally—of the DA and other various political offices, or with absolutely incontrovertible proof that would trump…

I'm not sure whether working in the governor's mansion really qualifies as a human right, though, so your point kind of doesn't make sense.

Listen I don't think your questions are unimportant—on the contrary, they're very important. But they're not really relevant to this, because the governor is not instituting prison reform, he's not sitting in on parole hearings. He's pardoning his cook. Because these men are reformed? How the hell does he know? Fuck…

The banality of evil is not the sociopathic double-lives of evil people.

The banality of evil is not the sociopathic double-lives of evil people.

The banality of evil is not the sociopathic double-lives of evil people.

It sounds to me like you really have your shit together. It can be tremendously difficult to balance the hate for someone who hurt you with the pity you feel for that person because of the high likelihood he was also a victim of sexual violence. But I also think that balance is key to surviving (not just for huge…

Um, I don't know. 16 is old enough to know what kind of harm that's doing. And sending out naked pictures of your girlfriend is really violent. She can't erase those pictures; they're out in public and uncontrollable by now.