Really? Because it sounds less like you're choosing to think better of humanity right now and more like you're ignoring racism.

Yes, and antebellum themed weddings are creepy as fuck and if I saw a news article about one I'd say, Wow, that's racist and creepy and those people are terrible.

"The one person who really knows me best

Ooooohhh ok. Sorry I was very confused.

Wait I don't understand how pointing out the absurdity of the whole shebang—with a note on how the racial disparity of the waitstaff specifically highlights how offensive it was—hurts the overall credibility of the issue (and what's the issue—that there was a racist wedding? that white people are racist? that racism…

What about SarahMC's comment was whitesplaining?

Yeah she's being really closed minded about the nice parts of the Westboro Baptist Church and men who think women ought to obey men.

Well if they were looking for cheap labor then you make a good point: the fact that the result was breathtakingly racist just isn't a big deal.

Do the underlying racial tones disappear if the decision wasn't a conscious one?

If you're not burning a cross on someone's lawn or enforcing apartheid with your machine gun you can't be a racist duh. You're racist against white people for saying that white people are racist duh.

Less about intentionally hiring black people to be the waiters at your wedding, more about how the racial disparity of servers/served absolutely brings into stark focus how fucked up it is to have nostalgia for eras gone by (that were defined by legal racism)?

I don't understand what this means.

That's the logic of a dude who fires his secretary because she won't suck his dick.

There are all kinds of cycles, like the one where people die.

Yeah I agree with you. Unfortunately, not everyone knows how to come up with effective discipline strategies that don't involve violence.

Oh, no, I didn't mean because of the way the book reads! Not at all, sorry if I implied that.

@ Ari Schwartz:

Wait, Jeff Goldblum really defeated alien invaders by writing a computer program?!?!?!?!?!

To everyone who's pointing out that you or your friends or whatever didn't know the gender of the author of GTFTS: Part of the reason you didn't know or pay attention to the gender, is that the gender of the author is male. If a woman wrote it, her gender would be unavoidable. Female is the marked gender. That's one…

Yes, I agree.