@Delphinus100: Me too!

@SamIam24: All pancakes are disgusting unless they're roughly 40% chocolate chips. And 40-50% chocolate chip buckwheat pancakes are really, really healthy in many, many ways.

@Melodyannabelle: I got mine at petsmart or pet co or pet supplies plus or something.

@firstpairofboots: What kind of excuse-making do you mean? "Big-boned" etc isn't really excusing a dude's fatness, as much as it is not judging male bodies the way female bodies get judged. Double standard seems like a more precise term, no?

@walkawayrenee: I don't have any, because the men in my life who act like this rather quickly get Xed out of my life forever. I mean, I do try to help—explain, rationally and clearly, why that's a crazy bullshit woman-hating thing, and then if they listen and come to see the light, they can still be my friend.…

@girlinthegarden: @pamplemousse: OMG what if you guys know each other in real life?

@Melodyannabelle: Don't do a choke collar, they're dangerous. Go for a poke collar!

@PaintedTrollop: This is why middle-class white people love her. Feeling like a victim is really easy when, through the slow, slow trudge towards a more progressive society, somebody takes your arbitrary and un-earned privilege away.

@ShadowSpectre: A real paying job? Is waitressing not a real job?

@greenelantern1: Putting a jar out isn't the same thing as table service. There's no real expectation of tips at Starbucks, but there is when you're at a sit-down restaurant.

@lonelyinmynightmare: I think the difference is in the rhetoric used to talk about it—the focus on her weight, added to the focus the media already puts on the bodies of actresses/women, and the pressure to be thin. It's like the difference between the way they talk about Bridget Jones gaining 30lbs, like it's a huge…

@beatrice2000: Yes. My sister's a modern dancer/choreographer, and she's very interested in these issues. One of the reasons modern dance developed was as a reaction against the strict bodily standards ballerinas have to live up to—it's almost never healthy. The whole "candy and cigarettes" diet, rounded out with diet…

@Nurse Bob: Everyone I know who's ever had a nursing assistant (like, someone who comes to your house and helps you (by which I mean "helps your mother/grandmother) when you're old and infirm) always gives them a nice holiday present. Not really a tip, but usually a very nice bottle of alcohol, or some other nice…

@slightlyhardup: I don't think you're doing anything wrong. My mother is a hairstylist, and she gets all kinds of gifts like wine and stuff from her customers.

@silentace001: My sister is a dancer and a choreographer, but because there's not a lot of money in modern dance, she has to work as a waitress to pay rent and get health insurance.

@silentace001: "They just use there bias to convince themselves that they are right. "

@tuxus: "If you have an issue it should be with your employer not the customer. What this has shown me is not that I am obligated to tip but that servers feel entitled to a tip, apparently regardless of their competence and attitude. "

@stoprobbers: "I now understand that bad tipping really is an indicator of a bad person"

@jupiterthunder: When I worked as a server, I got $0 paychecks all the time. I claimed 10% of my sales (i.e. how much money customers payed to the restaurant for the price of their food only) and sometimes the number of hours I worked wasn't sufficient to cover 10% of that. Hence, $0 paycheck.

@matttrick: Yes, servers are like 19th century sailors.