Oh, I don’t think opposite-sex nudity is necessarily any more sexual than same-sex nudity, I was just making the point that there’s a ton of precedent for exposing kids to same-sex nudity, and I don’t think that’s the case for same-sex nudity. That’s probably because a lot of old traditions are very heteronormative,…

So unless you’re talking about exposing kids to opposite-gender nudity (which I didn’t see mentioned but I might’ve missed it), I don’t think most of this is that revolutionary. Plenty of cultures have public baths or hotsprings where you’re relaxing with a bunch of same-gender naked strangers, and no one makes a big…

Seriously. I’ve had pot once, in edible form, and was extremely naive at the time, and the main thing I remember is “No more than this, if you think the dosage is too low you’re objectively wrong; it either hasn’t kicked in yet, or you’re not thinking straight. In either case, no more.”

Which he probably wouldn’t have done if he hadn’t eaten six times the recommended amount.

I still love physical books, but I think many readers get many books that we only read once, and those I now get on my kindle. I used to need to drop off many books at a used bookstore every year or so; now if I don’t see myself rereading it in the next 5 years, I just get it on kindle because physical books, much as…

For some reason, I didn’t notice your name until it was right above Steve Rogers’ face.

Honestly, if you spent however many years dating saying you both never wanted kids, and got married with both being convinced that you never want kids, I think that’s at least as big a deal as this. In both cases you’re reversing a really important decision after you’ve both committed, but having kids is much more…

She sounds like a bored wife who didn’t get enough play as a young unmarried woman. Now she wants to have that missed experience of sleeping around while also keeping her husband and her kids.

Assuming they considered kissing to be cheating, yes, she cheated. That’s a mistake, cheating is never ok. She kissed one guy, was immediately honest about that, and started a conversation about why and what she feels she needs in a relationship. Apart from that kiss, she did everything right. When you make a mistake,…

Yep! “Premeditated.” Like it’s some kind of heinous crime.

Is it horribly insecure that the thing that bothers me most about my boyfriend’s ex is that she’s been married to the person she was with after him for years and we’re not even engaged yet? That’s not so much specific to his ex as it is every one of our same-age still-together friends, and everytime I bring it up he’s…

Wait, what about Jennifer Lawrence and Anne Hathaway? Which days are they? And are those hate-days or love-days? How many meetings have I missed?

It pops up in all disciplines, it just seems more common in STEM fields. I was a music major and regularly the top of the class in my chosen specialization, but was rejected (you take applied for specialization after 4 semesters). I couldn’t understand why until I got talking with other women who’d all been pushed in…

Eugh, I hate how that perpetuates rape culture. Doctrinally it’s just as bad for boys to have sex as girls, but in practice girls face much harsher judgement. I remember boys talking about how it’s hard to tell if she actually doesn’t want it or she just doesn’t want to seem like she wants it because she wants it but…

As a rule, I judge people by what they do about their mistakes, rather than the fact that they make mistakes. Yes, many people (though not all) consider a kiss to be cheating. And the best thing to do when you make any mistake is to be honest about it and talk about it, which is exactly what she did.

Well, teens telling their parents that they want to have sex safely means admitting that they want to have sex, which shouldn’t be a big shameful thing because of course teens want to have sex, but we live in a still-somewhat-puritanical society where having to talk to your parents about that is a significant…

As one of my friends in Youth Group (teenager Bible school) once explained, planning to have sex is as big a sin as having sex, so it’s less sinful if it isn’t “premeditated”.

Extramarital sex isn’t necessarily patriarchal. While it’s true that for a long time monogamy was only expected for women, and men of certain classes were expected to be socially but not sexually monogamous, that’s not sexist because of the nonmonogamy, it’s sexist because it’s a double-standard. With that logic, you…

Please don’t accuse me of being close-minded, I acknowledge that there are bullshit claims being made (again, it can’t cure cancer), and I haven’t argued anything without reason and evidence. Eat/use whatever you like, but don’t accuse something of being unscientific when the available evidence supports it.

That makes sense, though even if the cheater thinks lying will help the relationship, reality doesn’t work that way. This is anecdotal obviously, but I was cheated on once: he told me about it before I even had time to get suspicious, said exactly what happened and when and that it wasn’t gonna happen again, and we…