31 here, same. Will probably go with the "it's been awhile/few years" thing. Someone told me once that bleeding can occur if it's been a few years anyway, so I'm not even that worried - it had happened to them, so I knew they weren't just trying to make me feel better.

Not everyone wants to sleep with a total stranger they pick up in a bar - first time or not, older virgin or not.

31, and same - and I know quite a few others in the same predicament. There was a great post on that last year on Jez, and the comments section was amazing - full of people who just hadn't found the right fit just yet.

As much as I like cute kittens, I clicked here just to say I liked the shady joke!

I am curious to know who is making the determination that the addiction rate is what it is in that article (and all of them out there, really), and what that's based on - exactly which criteria, and who is making that judgment call? I would argue based on my education and experience with others that drugs do in fact…

My sister and a good friend both ended up getting TVs because that is what their guys wanted. Not as romantic or long-lasting, but the guys were happy and that was the main goal, to give them something in return that would make them happy. I think cuff links are a nice idea if the dude will wear them, and a watch is…

I thought this was an interesting article, though I don't agree with everything written, and I've read all of the comments and found them thought provoking, but the one thing that keeps nagging at me is - how do we know that he is in fact still an abuser, and that she is in fact in an abusive relationship? Yes, it is…

You clearly don't know a thing about any of those women, nor white feminist women as a whole. Go away, troll.

At first I was inclined to agree with you, but on second thought I think you are mistaken - I think it has a lot less to do with race and a lot more to do with youth. They were teenagers when they started dating and they are still in their early 20's - they have millions of really young fans who are obsessed with…

I would say yes - it's my understanding that regardless of community service and donations to charity aside, he attended anger management counseling and was considered fairly successful at it. He obviously has a long, long way to go, but he's also awfully young, we have absolutely no idea whether their relationship…

My thoughts on this are as follows: 1) it was $5 cash from grandma (RIP); 2) one less day of bogus credit card offers?! Woohoo!

Yes! I loved this, it's worthy of the COTD honor.

Yes! I must admit I agree with you, it is absolutely tantamount to reckless endangerment and I admire him for pressing charges and going public with such a personal and controversial issue. Even though I'm not at all a fan of Honey Boo Boo. I don't really see how this is comparable to carriers of genetic diseases;…

Definitely fuck George, marry Ben and kill Jon. He just doesn't do it for me and I've always loved Ben, even through the dark years. As for George, I mean come on, he's George fucking Clooney.

That's exactly what I thought! 1998 is not "super old" I find it depressing that someone was clueless enough to approve that then, even though it would always have been a terrible message to send.

I totally agree that it is worthwhile to question the system in place, to have a serious conversation about the decision (regardless of which conclusion results), that it's never appropriate for a man (or anyone else, like little old ladies) to assume we will change our names. I just feel that after all of that…

No, I made no such implication, and it would never be appropriate for any man to demand anything or make any assumptions about what women are willing to do. My mother went back to her prior name and many divorced women don't, because they want to keep the same name as their children. I was always uncomfortable when…

Yes! Absolutely, either person, and a real conversation and decision, not an assumption.

I am not on the brink of getting married, but I have thought about this a lot and the property thing doesn't hold much weight for me, because the reason we had our fathers' names and not mothers' was because we were their property first, too - it was an exchange of property, not a sacrifice of independence. Anyway,…

If they hadn't already chosen the cotd, I'd nominate yours for sure.