Right. So they could say, "Make me look like him" instead of saying, "Give me a haircut like Julie's from the Love Boat."

Just want to second what goddessoftransitory wrote. When you are ready to explore your feelings more deeply, I highly recommend learning more about Complex PTSD and working with a therapist. I have struggled all my life with the consequences of abuse from my dad, and was in a relationship/marriage for 14 years with a…

I'm already here. I have no control over impulse. This winter has solidly kicked my ass. I am celebrating v-day with F.U., champagne, shortbread sunflower seed biscuits, my beagle, and later, my vibrator. I win. I win.

You are still looking at this upside down. Even if you keep your eyes open, you will not be privy to what women see and experience each day. You are moving through the world as a man, your comfort within that world is assured in many (not all) ways that are withheld from women. The overt harassment is only a piece of…

I also liked how public urination was included. That, and the shirtlessness, really drove home the point that physical comfort was "claimed" in public space.

I appreciate the observations you make, based on your experiences and your perspective, moving through the world as a man. I don't doubt that everything you are saying is true. Based on your experience. And this is precisely the point Pourriat wanted to make with her video. She was weary of hearing her male…

Yes. It seems like there is an impulse to avoid the pain and suffering of the victim by focusing on the who is right and who is wrong. I can't imagine what it must be like to see an abuser receive such public adoration and praise. She did nothing wrong and was incredibly brave as a little girl when she told her mom…

Perfectly stated. Thank you.

It is decided. I will undertake my studies to become a white witch with renewed energy and dedicate my rituals to the manifestation of this great vision.

" Hill came forward with her claims."

Thank you so much for making this point. I've noticed over the last 3-5 years in particular (I'm almost 51), I am less inhibited by thoughts of what others might say or think about what I say or do. Maybe what seems like a growing conservatism or close-mindedness is actually a loss of self-censoring and increased…

Thank you voice of reason.

The point with this research is that women have a much higher (2x) risk of developing DVT on the nuvaring than on "older" versions of hormone-based contraception. I was one of those women. I used birth control pills for almost 10 years between 1990 and 1999 with no major problems. Some side effects. But as you note,…

Thanks for this post.(!). I have noticed that in the absence of face to face, or telephonic, communication, I must use the exclamation point to convey my positive interest in what I am communicating. I can't use emoticons because my text only communication partners are academic folk and emoticons are just too much of…

I haven't read all the suggestions yet. I would recommend that you start by thinking about the issues that you are passionate about and why. Social justice? The environment? Political freedom? Health and well-being?

My Ex: When questioned why he didn't tell me that he had herpes before we had sex without a condom:

Sun salutations synchronized with an Enya soundtrack. It would almost look like dance, but it would be yoga, but not really, because yoga is a spiritual practice so instead it would be some really awesome bullshit, like yoga twerking but wholesome.

I agree with others who have said it's not for you to say whether she should continue or discontinue her contact with her ex. I also encourage you to turn away from the distraction of her relationship with her ex, and look closely at your relationship with her. I encourage you to have a conversation with her to let…

These sweaters would go great with those red Tocca pants! In fact, I think Boy George has that exact outfit!

Rhett Butler: Why Miz Scarlett! You look divine! Where did you find such finery in the midst of this terrible war?!!