Sounds like your dad is a winner. That is so good. Happy day after!

I'm recommending a book: "Be the person you want to find" by Cheri Huber. It helped me see what I was up to when I would get obsessive about a person or a relationship or specific aspects of the relationship. And it helped me see that when I was doing that, I was putting a lot of power into the relationship or person…

I second Indigo and it's o.k. to have a messy night with messy posts. I think I'm about the same age as you or a little older. I too am single. I was married once, and that was not fun. Learned a lot though! Not very keen to do it again. I have been in a similar situation to the one you describe: unemployed, on my…

Can you use the fact that she is from Australia as the reason for letting her know that people might see her doing that in a way that she doesn't intend? Use the example of how people reacted to that one group that dressed up in black face and performed on Australian t.v. and then Harry Connick Jr., who was a guest…

Meant to post this in a reply.

I have a complete meltdown whenever something medical/invasive is done to me: needles, cutting, any sort of procedure that violates the integrity of my skin or penetrates a place that was not made to be penetrated. No matter how much I prepare, or work with the feelings, I still become very "shocky" and basically pass…

Thanks for the recommendation.

It will help clean. Have you done a thorough search along the window & door frames and all corners and seams to be sure there are no gaps, cracks, or holes? Plug em up with caulk, or if there are bigger ones, fill in the space with steel wool and then cover with caulk or wood putty. It's the time of year for critters…

You should go in for breathing tests too. I was working out a lot five years ago and went in for a breathing test due to allergy symptoms. Even though my capacity was fine, the slope on my exhale showed mild asthma, which was enough to leave me feeling exactly as you described yourself feeling with that run up the…

The smug smile says it all.

Go ahead and meet up with on-line guy. It's low stakes, and if real life guy doesn't pan out, you won't feel like you gave anything up. And be sure to plan something you really like to do just for yourself. So if one or both lets you down, you can count on yourself for a good time.

Me too. I've learned that I can't be generous—-showing up for events, bringing presents, helping out—-with friends or family until I've been generous with myself. It took me years to figure out what I need to do in order to feel nourished, loved, valued and respected. I do these things for myself everyday. Some days…

Awful. A discussion about affirmative action and contracting devolves into people talking out of their butt holes about whether discrimination is real. Are you paying for your tuition out of pocket? Have other discussions been based on a "whatever you personally think goes" without any standard for how to speak to or…

My first post under the new commenting system. I know this is a dead horse I'm about to beat. Dear Jezebel, you have changed the commenting system, and broken your website. I used to come here for sharp, relevant, funny cultural commentary. The tabloid style headlines were hooks for posting that sometimes missed the…