I didnt say 99% of men get into relationships purely for sex, I just said that sex is a factor in 99% of relationships for men.

Assuming there are no medical problems that hamper either of your libidos (vulvidinia, ed, diabetes, cancer survivor) which actually is a logical reason for little sex, are you sure he is happy with you, or is he just biding his time/waiting for something better to come along or (equally likely) hes just with you…

Good point!

I guess you are right. I cant really think of anything short of protests and revolt, which is a deadly game in latin america right now.

So its not sexual degradation when brown women in latin america barter sex for services, goods, compliance, but it would be here?

"Given their culture"

So, then sex with men isnt really something that people use to bond or an enjoyable recreation, its a commodity to be bartered for other things?

Sorry, I read your comment wrong.

A- Monogamy is the norm? How so?

What % of men do you think get into relationships purely for non sexual reasons?

Sure, because Im willing to be a majority of men are ok with nonsexual relationships with women, and only want to date purely for the other persons personality and just to have that person around.

Should sex be used by women as a 'tool' to get something? Or a 'gift' in exchange for some mutual consideration? I 'feel' like thats very sexist, but not sure if it applies.

Why date a woman at all if the only sex you get is masterbation?

Are you serious?

Whats wrong with that?

You might be just assuming hes happy with it. More likely, hes putting up with it to not cause conflict...something which will only happen for so long until he cheats or calls it off.

Actually Ive received a gamut of answers. But the one I keep hearing is

Good point!

I do. I dont think you grasp what the term 'insecurity' means.

Im on the west coast. Thanks for your response, and I can absolutely see your point being originally from the south.