I’m of the view there’s no appropriate time to release a film like this and maybe we can stop making films that pedal the fantasy that any teenage girl would be interested in gross older guys altogether. The fantasy is entirely ONE-SIDED.

One of my worst childhood bullies is on Facebook being super crusadey for #metoo, BLM, supporting HRC last year, etc. I don’t think she has any idea what she put me through and I have no idea if it’s worth me ever saying anything. She was also very very funny and would accuse me of not being able to take the jokes,…

Oh, this happens to me all the time, too. A few years ago I spoke to my father about something he made me do (not sexual or harmful, just a scary physical swimming challenge) when I was very young, and he vehemently denied that anything like that and would never do that to a young girl. Yeah—he may not remember it…

Would you ask “What about the whites” on a police brutality against black citizens article? Then shut up.

I don’t personally care whether people feel compelled to post #MeToo or not. However you feel about posting that is part of your experience, just like your decision to press charges, or remain silent, or tell HR, or find a new job, or whatever.

See this has always baffled me about the US system. I’ve done jury duty in the UK, and we are literally picked at random. It’s 12 names out of a hat, essentially, and you’ll get replaced if you, a) know any of the people involved, or b) have been a victim of a similar crime/other life event likely to seriously…

“Did I say no loud enough?”

I understand- it is difficult, especially since we don’t always learn what we are “allowed” to speak out against. About a year after my worst assault experience, I was working in a fast food restaurant. I was the only one in front when a regular customer came in with a friend and made a “joke” comment about my breasts…

I’m picturing Pence sitting across from Mother at the breakfast table, their breakfast of bacon and buttermilk between them, reading this news. “The Lord has given us more work to do, Mother, we must acquit ourselves righteously and without mercy against these sinners.” And then Mike gets out his Jesus wand and they…

Most rapes and assaults don’t look at all like they do in movies and often, victims don’t feel the way they think they’re supposed to. Just because your narrative isn’t cinematic and you haven’t seen it before doesn’t make it not rape.

It sounds to me like you’re having a trauma reaction. “actual” is subjective - be very very kind to yourself as you unpack your experience. You’ve been through something that has significantly affected you. Whatever it was, it has hurt you. I just want to honour that in you. Hugs.

You know what? Based on what you wrote it was an actual assault. Even if the experience did not involve physical force, but coercion, fraud, or manipulation, it was real. Don’t second guess yourself, that’s what they want you to do. I hope you’re OK.

One thing that’s been bothering me this week is seeing Weinstein’s face all over the place. Every once in a while I’ll see the face of a person who sexually assaulted me (thanks FB/insta) and it will take my breath away for a moment. Can we stop plastering his picture everywhere yet, so the victims don’t have to be…

My daughter is a senior, and prom at her school is definitely considered more of a group event than a couples thing. Most kids go with “dates”, but most of them are just friends. If a pair wanted to sneak off for sex after, everyone else would be like “Can’t you do that any other time? We want to go to ihop.”

...us men have killed a hundred million people in wars over the centuries, but you women getting shouty over us raping you is problematic.

In the same way that I don’t want even an exceptionally qualified male OBGYN, I don’t really feel, idk if “comfortable” is the right word, but I guess it just seems a little out of place to see male writers on sites for women. As in, geared toward women and the experiences of women, but still need a man to explain…

But if I were in an open marriage, I would be horrified if my husband was having years-long relationships with people and not telling them he’s married and has a kid. I mean, the idea behind an open marriage is that honest non-monogamy is better than dishonest monogamy because you don’t want anyone being lied to or…

I’m a woman so clearly I have no right to voice my opinion on the average man, I’m so verrrrry sorry I offended you.

I did too when reading it. It’s the only book of his that’s made me do that.

What a cool compliment!