My sister-in-law had her and my brother’s first kid last year. She said when she was being released from the hospital, my brother was out of the room, probably bringing the car around front or something, and one of the nurses asked if my sister-in-law felt like she and the newborn baby would be safe alone with my…

Yes, that’s right. One of my early prenatal appointments with every one of my pregnancies included sending my husband out of the room so my dr or midwife could ask whether I was experiencing abuse, and here are the warning signs, because it’s more likely to happen now that you’re pregnant. Not exactly the cheery…

Totally aside from custody, many men get violent because the mother’s time and attention is taken up with the baby, and they resent the loss of time and attention for themselves. I actually think that’s more common than custody-related abuse.

Seriously. Isn’t the potential for domestic violence supposed to increase during pregnancy? I’m pretty sure that’s what a poster on the wall of my room in the maternity ward said.

“Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.” It was time for today’s quote. Unfortunately we get to use this daily - sometimes more than once.

This guy’s lawyer says: “It’s very rare that someone is involved in a homicide case with someone they just had a baby with.”

Margaret Atwood.

I’m sorry, but LOL. That is literally the whole point of grooming, to make the kid think it’s consensual and to not feel “groomed”. I’m genuinely happy you don’t feel like a victim, but he was absolutely a predator.

You sound like a truly controlling delight to be around!

Are you suggesting that statutory rape laws are limiting the ability of teenagers to make decisions to care for themselves?

Ok. I was simply curious how much time had elapsed and whether you had been the parent of teenage children. I don’t know any people over about 35 who see “adultism” as a bad thing. And when you have to be responsible for a teenager, you see that they ARE immature. Not all the time, but enough that the laws protecting…

That “yet” so beautifully encapsulates the condescension men throw at younger women, regardless of their talent and professional background, that it should be framed and put in a museum.

Wow. I didn’t even catch this gem the first time around this morning:

And some people who were in a similar situation feel very differently. I felt very abused by the older men who were sexually interested in me. I am glad that there are laws in place to protect children.

Insanely, that is literally the law in the Old Testament, that a rapist has to marry his victim. Of course, that is also literally Bronze Age thinking, where women/girls are commodities and the idea was “you break it, you bought it.”

The paragraph you quoted doesn’t mention or describe seduction. A term you might be looking for is “grooming”.

And what 20 something wants to be involved with a 14 year old?

Can someone explain to me how getting married after after committing the sin somehow makes up for it? You make a mistake when you're 14 and then are saddled with a rapist for a husband for the rest of your life? Yes, that is what a loving god would want to happen. Makes sense.

When I was in 10th grade, one of my classmates dropped out to get married. I ran into her more than 20 years later. She was divorced, with a few kids of her own. She said she wished someone could’ve talked her out of that nonsense. Her mother had to sign for her to marry that idiot.

“Seduces” isn’t an appropriate term to use to describe child molestation.