Honestly, this is WAAAAY out of line.If you spend even a tiny amount of time understanding adoption you will find out that one of the most hurtful and harmful things about being adopted is the constant expectation that you are supposed to be grateful for what is ultimately a huge loss in you life and your identity.…

“You are the first adopted kid I’ve heard say that.” You should really talk to more adults who were adopted. Especially if you will have a grandchild who is adopted. Seriously, I’m not being snarky. I think you’ll find a whole range of experiences. And even the notion that adopted people are “always wanted” can…

I find it fascinating that you think that because you’re adopting somebody else’s Black baby for free that you’re more ethical than anybody else adopting anybody else’s child. Are you sure that the child welfare system that removes those Black foster children from their parents is any more culturally competent or…

You realize that in foster care, the children are removed from their families of origin by force and that the parents are (sometimes) provided a lawyer who makes the lowest possible rate to argue their case. But for you its free, so it must be ethical, right?

Your experience sounds sadly familiar to one of mine. I worked for an agency (child welfare agency w/over 400 employees) who performed adoptions (I’m a social worker). While I was there, they changed their paid time off policy so that basically anyone adopting would be unable to save their time off to use for an…

My dad died from liver failure, though due to Hep C. One Tylenol would turn him completely yellow, including his eyes. It's was really hard to watch. Liver failure is an awful thing because there really is nothing to be done. I'm sorry your mom had to suffer through it. I wish more people were aware of the realities…

I got the impression that she was sticking around because she had ordered something but hadn't paid yet. That's what made the manager so upset - that she was using her phone to open a payment app I think.

I’m sorry. This is the CLASSIC story of being raised by someone with Narcissist Personality Disorder. It can be nearly impossible for the child (or the other parent in custody situations) to convince outsiders that something is wrong. Child welfare systems and family court are set up only for those kids who are not…

You obviously can’t read. One of the reasons that some date rape drugs are so popular is that they clear your system extremely quickly, making them impossible to be detected afterward. That doesn’t prove that she was indeed drugged, but it most certainly makes your statement that her claim is “demonstrably false”…

Yes, this is essentially arguing the victim of child pornography should be charged with the crime itself. I wouldn’t think that the voluntary nature of the creation of the image itself would be at issue, due to (1) age and (2) the fact that the victim didn’t consent to its distribution.

While I agree with you 100% that this should be the rule, it is very clear that this is not the family that should be raising this child. So at this point the parents should be charged with abandonment or neglect and the child should be placed with a parent who wants to raise it. It has been 7 months, if this parent…

TBH, I’ve heard the name before in passing, but I think I thought it was associated with the Pulitzer Prize.

What happens, without fail, is that these items end up on eBay for quadruple the original Target selling price. I don’t really understand how this helps Target’s bottom line. Can anyone in business explain it to me? Why not just make slightly more of them or raise the price higher rather than drive your customers to…

Interesting. 34DD is my size and I shop at VS but I don't have implants. I was kind of wondering why they had all the cute bras nowadays in such larger cup sizes. It makes perfect sense now. Do you find though with your implants that all the bras with such the extreme push-up features at VS are just too much? …

Grau, here's the problem for me: I get what you are saying, but you also seem perfectly happy to personally perpetuate those unrealistic standards of beauty that cause women to starve themselves. And I say this as a woman with an eating disorder. So it is really crushing and yes, absolutely triggering, to hear…

What is at issue here for me is whether the university clinic clearly and adequately disclosed to this student prior to her counseling the limits of their confidentiality. In professional mental health practice, there are usually only three reasons you can violate confidentiality (child abuse, suicide, or danger to…

WHERE'S THE GRAPH?

my company did something similar sponsored, ironically, by the diversity committee. I'm on the committee but wasn't there the day it was decided. They decided to celebrate Black History Month with a luncheon with fried chicken, mashed potatoes, greens, rolls and butter. When I got the email even I (non-Black…

I'm an X-er. I remember pictures being taken at one REALLY wild high school party and tracking down the camera the next day and exposing the film so that it couldn't be developed. The only reason I am able to lead a professional life today is because the iPhone and the internet weren't yet invented until after this.…

Any time I hear that one partner feels the other partner's sexual desire or functioning is gross or boring I know that relationship is going to end up being very difficult for at least one if not both of those people.