and I'm sure she's crying into her pillow right now because of your disapproval.

No. Doing whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it is called sociopathy, not feminism.

breaking down structural barriers to equality in political, economic, and social spheres for all women, regardless of race, class, orientation, etc — it's not just 'doing whatever the fuck I want, when I want!' that's pretty frothy, surface, pseudo-feminism.

...since I was digging through the $2 bin at Target.

I suspect that, like those of the big couture houses, this "fashion show" is more about building brand identity and generating press than about displaying actual garments you could buy in the store and then, you know, wear. Unless your usual day uniform is a glitter-encrusted shrug, hot pants, and stiletto moon boots.

It's like the Care Bears and the Night Before Christmas got into a fight and then farted out a make up song.

He was a complete asshole. Make sure to have nothing more to do with him. Because asshole. And tell your friends, "I'm not going to hang out anymore with the asshole that called me fat. So, make a note of that."

You know, second-wavers didn't usually fuck people around with this bumper sticker bullshit. And I personally would actually like an entire movement, not just a bumper sticker slogan.

Here's the catch in your story: the guy lied to you about his relationship being on the verge of ending, not about being in a relationship. You knowingly went into your relationship with him while he was in an ostensibly monogamous relationship with another woman. That was wrong.

Actually we can't make any assumptions about other people's relationships. Plenty of married folks are not monogamous or have don't ask don't tell policies. Is it selfish to sleep with someone who is in a committed relationship? Totes. But if you aren't in that relationship, you don't intrinsically owe it anything.…

God, that elbow is so pointy! He is WAY below my standard. And does he even HAVE a knee, or does his thigh just run directly into his calf? Ugh.

Thank you for the Father Ted gif!

I love a good mob with pitchforks as much as the next person, but every time a story shows up about this asshat....

I'm gonna go with "Not hacked and isn't going to claim it, either." This guy seriously thinks he is the hero here.

I believe what you are smelling is the distinct stench of someone apologizing not because they are sorry for doing it, but for getting caught.

"My name is Ms. Stewart, not Ms. Dodai."

I can keep a weather eye on the class issues. The others I will leave to people with more talent and impact.

And here's the kicker: lots of queers sound just as dumb and uneducated as the rest of the population. Making it so that we have to get a minor in Women's to be able to articulate our issues in the perfect jargon and with perfect citations makes it so that we don't have the luxury to just pick things up from reading…

Commenting in solidarity. I hope you retain your non-grey and non-banned status, HermioneStranger, because this is an amazing and well-thought out comment. I wish I could be so articulate.

So. Women of color and queer women have been pointing out the problems with "feminism" since forever, and it's a white dude's decision to go with "genderist" that makes you decide to write an article on how it's ok to not identify that way? Women who eschew the label are routinely held up as punching bags for you…