I mentioned upthread a gender-egaliatarian variation on the Spanish tradition (keep the man’s father’s name and the woman’s mother’s name, drop the others) that would allow double names to persist through generations, but I’m also gonna throw this out there: I don’t think it’s the parents’ job to decide what their…

Counterpoint: I know someone who had a single last name, married a guy with a hypenated last name, and took his hyphenated last name. That is, Kate Smith married George Jones-Brown and became Kate Jones-Brown. Whatever, it’s her name.

My preferred solution would be a slight variant on that tradition: instead of preserving each parent’s patrilineal name, preserve the father’s patrilineal name (Garcia) and the mother’s matrilineal name (Hildago). So the kids are Juan and Marisol Garcia Hildago, or for short, he’s Juan Garcia and she’s Marisol…

I can kind of see both sides. Your point is very well-made, but I also think the best (and worst) thing about long-term relationships is how you can take certain things for granted, and just be your lazy self sometimes. Certainly I can understand how always treating your spouse with as much thoughtfulness as you did…

You’re not a bitch at all.

Wind makes for photos that are either terrible or fucking magical.

Those pictures are stunning!

Somewhat off-topic, but I’ve been meaning to ask someone who works in a bridal shop.

I didn’t even notice—it works just as well in either order!

I’m also not just anti-white but anti-wedding-y dress (not interested in the trendy red wedding dresses that look exactly like a regular wedding dress, but red), and I feel like a veil would just put me back to square one. Is there a way to wear a veil that doesn’t scream bridal? I’m curious if you have any pictures…

Cotton candy cobwebs? That would be awesome.

Come sit next to me. And bring that lemon lavender cake.

Confession: even though my period is similarly suggestive of violent crime, I didn’t figure this out on my own because having a Diva Cup has eliminated the need for a back-up pad for the last several years for me. But yes, I definitely could have used these undies back when I relied on tampons. The worst thing is they…

Seems like the only thing they really have in common is they’re not fit to raise children.

Sure; I’m not talking about liability if the person is harmed. At most, if you warned them and they went ahead and assumed the risk anyway, you might have an evidentiary problem if they tried to claim you didn’t actually say what you said. (That’s why written waivers were invented.) I’m talking about whether a…

That makes a lot of sense, actually...but it also raises other questions. Like, you can’t be a sexy country star? Moreover, you’re too sexy for country if you have big boobs? Why?

Sounds like a DIY Accutane regimen, which is indeed effective for acne, but is also risky. Definitely talk to your doc.

Thanks! I have a very little bit of (very dark brown) hair on my (ghostly white skin) bikini line that I really want to laser off, because that’s the only part of my body where I get red bumps and ingrown hairs from shaving—or waxing, or Nairing, or whatever. (The only other parts I even feel the need to shave are my…

You don’t have laws against disability discrimination?

Can you tell me more about this? What does it cost? How much space does it take up? How much does it hurt? (I guess that last one is subjective, and probably no different than getting laser treatments from a pro. But I am a wuss who can’t wax her own bikini line, so I don’t know if I could handle this. But it sounds…