Not sure if you read all the way through and perhaps I’m misinterpreting here but the article says it was a judge’s ruling that was overturned, not a jury’s. It seems fine to me that if one judge gets something wrong that a decision can be appealed. I think judge’s decisions get appealed in the US too.

Dude, you may be the only one that believes his story that he didn’t think he was shooting at his girlfriend.

Advance note: Not a lawyer here, so I fully accept that my take might not be perfect from that perspective.-

Those are your choices, though. Either Deen raped Stoya, or Stoya is lying. If you refuse to “assume” that women who say they were raped are telling the truth, then you are assuming they are lying. That’s just how it works.

This person is a victim of abuse. She is not the right person to talk to about your previous rapey behavior, and having engaged with her, getting a (predictable and unsurprising) response like she gave isn't grounds to call her names and be a jerk. If you want to be an ally, you have some learning to do about how to…

I said BYE! How many times do I need to say it?

This response indicates that you haven't changed one bit. BYE! 👋🏼

It really sucks she had to teach you how to treat her as a person.

I used to work in crisis management and there actually are some common warning signs for rapists and abusers. They usually involve violating your consent or the consent of others in smaller, non-sexual ways well before assault happens. Examples include disregarding your stated preferences, encouraging you to drink…

The problem is that unless you’ve got practice seeing these things, they’re often hard to pick up on. There’s no way that 2015 me would date, let alone marry, a guy like my ex-husband, or several of my ex-boyfriends. But when you’re young, it can be hard to distinguish impulsivity from dashing-and-romantic, emotional…

Some men are dangerous, that is a fact. Most men are not dangerous, that is also a fact.

Hey settle down, hotshot. I understand a lot of young women have this fear, and as a 45 year old, who hasn’t seen this kind of thing lessen but increase, I say a hearty STFU dude to you. Seriously, take a fucking seat and slap yourself for trying to make this person feel bad about a fairly common and appropriate fear.…

“From what I understand, there are predatory men who stalk women in the BDSM community because it’s remarkably easy for them to abuse women there and get away with it scot free.”

You do realize that even when women are getting paid to do porn, that if they say no and if they say their SAFEWORD, that the scene must come to a SCREECHING HALT? Fucking christ.

The way the BDSM community goes in overtime trying to convince everyone that abuse rarely happens amongst them always seemed suspect to me. I’m sorry you were abused and intimidated into silence. :(

From what I understand, there are predatory men who stalk women in the BDSM community because it’s remarkably easy for them to abuse women there and get away with it scot free. The women are never believed. I am so sorry this happened to you. It’s so unfair. I believe you and Stoya.

That’s one the reasons I’m glad Stoya spoke out about this particular incident. An individual consenting to a BDSM relationship doesn’t mean her or she has consented all possible sexual interactions.

I’ve been trying forever to piece together early warning signs of a rapist...but I can’t. You never know...the “nicest” guys I’ve dated engaged in non-consensual sexual acts with me.

As someone who was abused by a prominent member of the BDSM community and deleted my social media accounts because I couldn’t handle seeing him praised as a “feminist”, I’m awed by Stoya’s bravery. I hope she gets all the support she deserves.

Pixies don’t have pupils. That’s how you can tell.