This, the acknowledgement that people will claim that how they would have behaved in a situation involving coercion seldom jibes with what they do. It’s something that people do to distance themselves from both harm and blame, and judge a stranger that has been harmed while feeling good about themselves.

Great, did you want a cookie? She didn’t leave because she didn’t want to be rude, because she’s been taught it’s safer to give a soft no than a hard one, because was afraid that she would insult him by leaving and he’d follow her and she couldn’t get away clean, for one of about one of a million reasons. Does it…

Why didn’t he just STOP? Why don’t you ask THAT question?

He was just looking for sex & disguised it as a...date.

If I let someone into my house, or enter his, I assume there’s a 60-70% chance he’s going to act just like Aziz did, if not worse. The problem (well, one of the problems) is that if I’ve invited someone in, it’s because this is a person I actually like, someone I’ve had a pretty good date (or multiple dates) with. And…

Pausing momentarily before continuing is not the same as stopping.

The only people who should be SO CERTAIN that they would say no or do the Right Thing(tm), without waiver or hesitation are people who’ve never been in that situation.

Yup. It’s how genocides happen.

This is my perception after listening to others who’ve been in Grace’s situation. Grace doesn’t know she’s met Jekyll & Hyde yet, so when he starts acting crazy...she still thinks it’s sweet Dr. Jekyll...so she stays. She wants Dr. Jekyll to comeback.

When I was a kid I was taught a lot of crap, a woman’s non verbals could tell a man she was into it, in fact, if a woman wasn’t screaming NO at the top of her lungs (and maybe physically struggling) then how was he supposed to know she’s not into it? (Tons of victim blaming, slut shaming, obviously.) And I remember…

I think men and women considering copulation might be using the same word (“sex”), but clearly it means something very different to each sex.

A commentator noted it below but please read on Milgram’s famous experiment. https://www.simplypsychology.org/milgram.html
None of the particpants were in danger of physical harm. All of the participants were under the impression they had to ability to kill the other subject. 65% gave out fatal doses just because they…

If you think a slender, small man is not a danger to a woman, you are completely deluded.

She said she didn’t want to — She said she wasn’t into it. She didn’t want to leave because despite being creepy aggressive she may have thought the date was going well, and when he listened to her and slowed down for X amount of time she may have thought the situation was diffused — until his dick made another…

This turned up to 11. I’ve had to practice not nervously laughing when someone makes a stupid joke. I’ve had to practice telling people they’re wrong. I’ve had to practice telling people they are out of line and I’ll report them. That happened with full support from friends, family, colleagues and superiors. Stripped…

I saw this today, and I like it a lot. A pull:

Call me crazy, but I’ve felt a subtle, yet noticeable, difference in the ways this particular case has been discussed on Jezebel. And I don’t mean the comments, but the articles itself.

Yikes. I’ve had bad sex. Like when the natural lube is just not doing it and you’re all out of the other stuff, or when you can’t find your rhythm, or when you’re distracted, or your dog won’t leave you alone (creep), or that one time that he missed and rammed it into my pelvic bone and that was the end of that.

I wish there had been all this three years ago, where twice a week I would Google some version of “Is it okay to have sex when you don’t feel like it?” and I just kept getting articles about women telling other women to take one for the team.

This article becomes very ironic when you take into consideration the fact that the author bashed second-wave feminists a couple of weeks ago. They wrote a lot about sex and the fallacies of “no means no”. Perhaps Ms.Edwards should add some of them to her bookshelf.