I have meditative music and some meditations I sometimes listen to when I need to soothe myself in a good way. I should probably listen to them more often. I also sometimes go to psychics for readings, and if the readings help, I listen to them over again, too.

I have an amazing new roommate. He’s fun to talk to, but otherwise quiet. He’s clean, he’s polite, he’s super easy to get along with. He puts the toilet lid down after using it! (He’s Mormon, and now I’m thinking maybe Mormons make good roommates? Or maybe it’s just him.) Also, he favours a universal basic income and…

It’s only a really good story if you know the ending and still want to see how it gets there.

Well, if he’s wearing wool, that doesn’t retain odour. And your skin has a microbial biome that regulates odour if you don’t interfere with it with soap. So maybe his clothes have his biome now too.

I think that’s part of why I don’t like just meeting someone being called a date, if I’m not feeling out romantic chemistry, but just trying to figure out if there’s anything at all about this person that I like, because I don’t know yet and a 10 minute conversation wasn’t enough (but a half-hour might be, or even…

I don’t know if I’m going to be on SNS tonight or not.

For a moment I thought you meant predation, then I realized, oh, yeah, pre-date! Whew!

Maybe the term had a really short life and I just happened to catch it? I’m not sure where I got it from. TBH, I actually like the concept, because it means I can have a look at someone without having to worry about liking him or not, or being expected to have sex.

So what is the difference between a date and a pre-date? Or do people not use the term “pre-date” anymore? I think coffee, or even a drink after work, for 15-30 minutes is a pre-date date. 1-2 hours is a date date.

I went to a protest in Montreal a few years ago about this sort of thing. The Quebec government was talking about cutting back on the amount of money available to disabled people living in the community, and the disabled people at risk pointed out that the cap for assistance in the community was something like…

With indigenous languages the issue is way more loaded, but languages die. I spent a few years in my 20s upset at the loss of Gaelic as a common language in Canada (some of my ancestors would have spoken it back in the day; it was banned in the schools in Ontario in the 1800s; some people still speak it but not so…

While it’s true that the older you get, the younger others seem (anyone under 35 is a child to me, and I’m only 52), I don’t think it’s ok to touch kids that way either.

So does it look at issues that affect girls and women more too? I see mention of selling drugs and incarceration, but nothing about prostitution or single parenthood.

I haven’t seen The Wire. Does it treat black women with as much respect as black men, or is it all about the men? Just because someone gets racism doesn’t mean they also get sexism.

Abortion didn’t stay legal from then to now. Like everywhere else, abortion is available when men think it’s ok.

There was a paper in Hypatia a while back that talked about this. The author got into trouble with some people at the journal for being transphobic, but her editor backed her up. I think one of the arguments she made is that there have been times/cultures where transracial was a thing - it depends on the…

True, but that doesn’t mean there was any mention of orgasm, or how it felt. Just that that stuff comes out here and goes in there, and then you have baby. Ta da!

See my answer to Olivia Pope’s Wine Glass.

I have orgasms fairly easily, but they are nowhere near the same thing as actually enjoying myself. My last relationship (a long time ago) my orgasms served the purpose of making my partner feel like he was doing his job, even though sex was excruciatingly painful for me and he knew it.

Aaak! I don’t want to go first.