Excellent essay. And this* why I despise When Harry Met Sally as a piece of retrogressive tripe right up there with Pretty Woman. *Among many other reasons, starting with the mere presence of Meg Ryan.

Maybe this is just kitty revenge for having to listen to "whooooz a snoookumswoookums. I sez whoooooza snoooky wooky looovy wooowooobug? Iz yoooo, right? Ix my (cat name here). Smooochysmooochysmakcsmakc." et al.

Cultural constraints have so much to do with this (and articles like this are part of those constraints). Lots of people settle down to (at least a first)marriage in mid-late 20's, and kids follow. But then people divorce, re-marry, have a second family, come out of the closet, change careers...I look back at my own…