"No one has thin eyelashes in Iran, but if you do, it's stressful for everyone."

Considering that's been the status quo for millennia, I fail to see your point.

I... don't feel like I can adequately address this. If Suz wishes to address it directly, Suz will need to do so.

I think what's consistently missing in these types of discussion is a dialogue about all the emotions women are forbidden from expressing, as well. Such as anger, discomfort, resentment, etc. And even when women do express emotions (such as crying when upset), there is a backlash (being called weak, overemotional,…

I have thought long and hard about this piece. The author's story is powerful. I agree fully with everything the author says about the terrible damage we do to children by enforcing the gender binary, I agree with everything they say about how the kind of conventional masculinity that our society demands of men is…

This was difficult to read. I, too, found myself strongly disliking Suz and at the end, when she reached out to her father but failed to mention the fates of the mother and sister that she abused I... well, I'm left wondering how those two women are. That's what I'm left with at the end, unanswered questions about the…

"it may be difficult to see the abusive husband or harassing boss as a victim. But hatred can never lead to healing. In fact it only encourages more violence as the sexes are pitted against each other, the antithesis to egalitarianism. "

I feel the same way. It's fascinating to me that Suz writes about her mother and sister distancing themselves, avoiding and not accepting her, but seems to attribute that solely to gender identity. Maybe they simply felt angry and betrayed because someone they loved was abusing them.

It's actually about ethics in food journalism.

I actually just replied to that thread. Here's my reply just incase you don't see it down there:

Heads up: Roxane Gay — acclaimed author of (this year alone) Bad Feminist and An Untamed State, essayist, professor, prolific and sage tweeter and all-around feminist inspiration — will be here taking your questions at 2:30 pm ET. Prepare yourselves!

OK, tried to edit the above and Kinja dropped the changes and locked my comment. Here goes again:

Well let's return to your original comment:

It's already really long and I'm not sure I am even halfway through.