Yep. That sentence should be changed in two places.

As a former cop, Pena will probably be separated from the general population and not get a "taste of his own medicine." And by the way, I read your comment the same way atlanticoceanid did and it's really disgusting to talk about possible future rape without mentioning that it will be a fucking tragedy if it happens.

Don't blame "America," blame NY State. The FBI defines rape as the involuntary penetration of the mouth with a sexual organ or the vagina and anus by anything (sexual organ, object, fingers, etc.).

"If I had to choose, I would rather be raped over and over vaginally than just once anally, but I guess that's just me." I don't have the energy to join this conversation, but I just want to second you on this with no reservations whatsoever. It's absolutely not just you who feels this way.

Or the innocent one honestly believes his twin is also innocent?

Yeah, this is the episode where the twin who knew framed his twin, right?

Like your husband, my understanding of rape changed when I starting studying its use as a *weapon* of war (and ethnic cleansing and genocide), which is something very different than its mere prevalence in conflict areas.

Hahahaha.

Anyone up?

I read the whole thing and it was painful because I recognized so much of it — particularly that devastating part where you described acquiescing to sex you didn't want, and not bothering to even put your arms around him. It's one of those cases where two people seem really disconnected — he thinks coming home just…

My gag reflex in normal life (teeth brushing, whatever) is sensitive but totally distinct from my sex gag reflex. If I relax during sex and am into it, it vanishes for the most part. There are all sorts of tips you can find online about deep throating, but my advice would just be to practice on a boy. And maybe get a…

You have your place to stay in Napa planned, but I'm still going to recommend Meadowood. It's truly lush and awesome and romantic. http://www.meadowood.com/

I got a note from my ex-neighbors once accusing me of doing aerobics in the middle of the night. It had lots of all caps "THUMP...THUMP THUMP THUUUUUMP!!!!!!" bullshit describing my alleged behavior. I was really just pacing, and not even with my shoes on.

I have to disagree with everyone who says you should give him another chance. A flu sneaks up on him... and then his computer freezes the moment he looks at your acct so he can't email you and let you know he won't be able to make it... and then he can't email you using the OKC app... and then he can't text you until…

"It's clearly time to consider gang rape a world epidemic"

I don't know, but maybe ask TieKoTronIck? http://jezebel.com/people/TieKoTronIck

Well, it's fair to say that the word has different connotations for you than it does for me. I tried to explain what I think the word suggests in response to the other person who responded to me... it's quite a long screed so I'm not going to paste it here, but take a look if you're curious.

First, the word "damaged" should never be used to describe any human being, because it implies that a person has lost value. A damaged thing (of any kind — person, car, relationship) is less valuable than one that is undamaged. I don't think we should talk about people that way. Second, the word divides people into…

Could be... she started way before 2006. I'm curious: were the jobs that offered that starting salary at private schools or with SFUSD?

I imagine my actions have no consequences? Where did you get that from?