I'm a slutty slut slut, so a lot of guys have discovered that I have condoms in my purse. But I don't think I've ever been judged for it... it's more, gratitude that I had foresight and that we don't have to try to find some in the middle of the night. Why do you think there's a stigma attached?

It's visible.

Whether you're crazy or not for that depends on what kind of shit you post on here, plus your general level of paranoia.

Have I ever told you that I love how you invariably call me KIRVO instead of KIROV? :)

Partizan's PICTURE THREAT thread reminded me of something I've been meaning to post. I'm pretty careful to not post anything on Jez that's too personal, because I post face pictures and enough identifying info that a dedicated google stalker could figure out who I am. That said, can we have a policy that if you…

In honor of #groupdrink.

First, you are gorgeous. Second, partizan needs to reorder that list. I am feeling quite resentful about where I am placed on it.

That's really sweet! I love you too, too.

Don't ask. :)

Me too! My cattie drinks his water and milk out of large antique champagne glasses. I stole this from some movie and it makes me feel cool.

Haha. Do people actually do that?

BBC has an hour and fifteen minute long dramatic storytelling of a rape, the victim-blaming that follows it, the trial, etc. It's really quite good for this kind of thing — the whole situation is realistic, and much of the complexity around people's responses to rape is included. So, I want to recommend it but also to…

Can cookiefucker (or a friend) drive you and just wait in the car until you text him and tell him it's ok?

Also! Don't label your instincts paranoia, and thus devalue them. Can you email any other model he worked with and just casually ask what he's like to work with? (I modelled for a little while in high school and college and though nothing bad ever happened with me, I have a good sense of how these things can go.)

Also, do you know where the shoot's going to happen? Inside, outside, whatever?

The thing about deepthroating is that a blow job can just develop into that. What I *wouldn't* do is say anything, like "do you want to have anal sex?" (or whatever) because then he'll know you're trying to impress him. You want to do something where you don't have to talk about it at all.

I encountered a 2-inch once. You have my commiseration.

Will there be other people around (hair, make-up)? If not, could you bring a friend with you?

I feel totally inappropriate saying this for some reason, but deepthroating generally does the trick.

Jenny Packham, the designer, has a white version in her current wedding collection.