“...Ansari seems content to hold up a mirror to everyone but himself.”

After moving to a Philly suburb for work. I was in my residence for about 4 months.

My wife was the one who asked me out. Within my first week on a new job in a new town. Don’t stop asking you never know the situation with a guy/girl .

You did the right thing.

Ignore the haters. I’m a woman and I’ve only ever had relationships where I did the asking. (I also always do the breaking up because I’m a fickle monster.) There were plenty of rejections in between. But if I have romantic intentions, I don’t try to secretly win them over for months, I just ask them out. Like an…

Dude talk here? Keep making those moves.

If you were a man that number would be 40 or 400. Call it female privilege.

See? Now you won't always wonder, what would have happened if I'd asked s0-and-so out? You've got some ovaries of steel.

I feel you and well done you! Rejection is hard, no matter what gender you are but if you can be a grown up about it, is can save you so much can't it? As sad as it sounds, I've never been asked out, and have always done the asking - I always found it helps to discern if we'd be good together!

Interesting.

fuckzoned is way better!! But I think both are useful... fuckzoned and girlfriendzoned are different, in my mind... GFzoned is when a guy builds a friendship with you as a means to try to date you, fuckzoned is when he does it just to fuck you.

I actually had friends look at me and ask me "what did you expect." And I told them. "I expected my platonic friend who I have never so much as kissed to keep his hand out of my vagina." You could hear crickets after I let that one loose!

Just be careful!

Ugh, the whole "I don't need any more friends" thing. I've always wondered how in fuck could someone be interested in a relationship with me if they're not interested in me as a friend. Plus, how can that even be a real thing? "I see you're well qualified for friendship, and you would normally be a strong candidate,…

I'm with you. It's too long... sexzoned? fuckzoned?

At least you don't have to wonder if any of those 4 would have been the one if only you had the courage to make a move.

Good for you, for being brave enough to make a move and mature enough to accept that he wasn't interested. It's not easy to put yourself out there. But overall, four times is not bad at all. You shouldn't feel bad at all.

Awful. There's a very short, simple conversation that should happen in these instances. Dude: I know we've been hanging out a lot and spending a lot of time together, and I'm interested in you romantically, not as a friend. You: Sorry, I don't feel the same way. Dude: I don't think I'm going to be OK being friends,…

This is what being a grown up looks like! Good for you, and don't let the rejection stop you from continuing to try. :)

Mine didn't do anything as Adult as trying to stick his tongue down my throat. He waited until I passed out on his spare futon one night and decided to crawl in with me and explore my vagina while I slept.