My aunt proposed to my uncle on the beach, back in the 80s when that was a bit scandalous :)
I’m sure you’re familiar with the idea of the “model minority” this is also a harmful concept, just like negative stereotypes (all asians are good at math is the classic example). This line of thinking is not good just cause it portrays a particular group as “hard-working”. Are they working hard because they want to…
Where is Bourdain saying that we have to rely on immigrants because the conditions are so bad no only else would do the job? His point on culinary students are they are expecting to be handed the best job in the kitchen right out of culinary school, rather than working their way up and learning. He is criticizing…
Uh no, my point is that his reasoning is ass-backwards. The industry should not have to rely on the horrible working conditions that immigrants are willing to do if they have no other choice. The whole “they’re so hard-working” thing is just as patronizing and bad as the reverse. It’s making them into a “model…
Although she is Australian.
Greer Garson??
SAMEEEE. Once I stopped making excuses in my head for why various flakey/immature dudes didn’t call, text, whatever... I found the right one. On Tinder no less.
I had a convo like that with a guy once and he lost his shit, told all our mutual friends I was baby-crazy. So that didn’t work out the way I’d hoped, but fuck me if I didn’t dodge a bullet on that one.
Yeah, the ones that are commitment-phobes and can’t figure out what they want, much less handle talking about it... these guys are out there. But they deserve to be dumped. More than one guy that I dumped because of their childishness said that me dumping them over their admittedly stupid behavior forced them to look…
Ugh,I know everyone says that about straight dudes but that has never been my experience,with the exception of Mr. Stabler. I’ve always been the really blunt one and the dude I’m with is talking in doublespeak, playing stupid mind games, generally being the confusing one. I dunno, maybe I’m just terrible at picking…
Yeah, straight cis men are usually not that difficult to figure out. What you see is usually what you get. If what you are seeing isn’t what you’re getting, and he actually is hedging, playing games, etc., then DTMFA!
YES THIS. I’ll give kudos where it’s due, it was my husband (then not-quite boyfriend) who was the direct one and me who spent months freaking out about it cause I’d only ever dated shitheels who just didn’t have an emotionally available bones in their bodies. But once I absorbed the fact that him telling me he really…
On a second date about ten years ago, I said to the guy sitting across from me, “So, I like you, you’re totally awesome. But I’m not looking just for a fun time, I’m looking for a long term relationship. I mean, I’m dating other people and I’m not saying we have to be serious, but generally speaking I’m ready to…
I’d say that. Because, yes, I’d like a response, but if the guy doesn’t like me and has to come up with an awkward turn down that makes us both embarrassed and anxious then I’d rather we both pretend I never said anything to begin with.
I dropped off some cupcakes to my local PP recently along with a letter all about how I love them and how grateful I am for everything that they’ve done for me. I suggest that everyone else here do the same if they can. SHOW THEM YOUR SUPPORT, GUYS. THEY NEED IT.
Just because people are preyed upon and fall victims to abuse does not mean they weren't tough enough, or that they simply had weak willpower. I think we can really be done with that generalization.
He might not have abused Katy. Doesn't mean Kesha's lying. Tons of abusive people have friends who genuinely think they're good folk.
I think speculating on whether a person "looks" like they would allow abuse is a dangerous road, don't you?