Oh, and yes, saying, “damn, I’m glad I don’t have cancer” to a cancer patient is insensitive as fuck. I know it pissed off one friend a whole lot when she was dying of cancer and people said that shit to her instead of just expressing their sympathy without centering themselves in that way.

You know, you can just say “I’m sorry that our society devalues you because you’re black” without also devaluing your black friends by telling them you’re grateful you don’t have to suffer like they do. Just FYI, the way you’re laying out here, it sounds reallllllll dickish.

It makes you an asshole if your way of comiserating is saying, “Well, I’m glad I’m not left-handed.”

If it’s “not inconceivable,” you prove yourself to be a racist piece of shit. Contrary to your bullshit white rationalization stated above, the only reason to state such a vile thing to a person of color is show and reinforce white supremacy. FUCK ALL THE WAY OFF.

The number of white women who voted for him coupled with the number of people who didn’t vote means there are far fewer white women who voted for HRC than they want us to believe, but they stay crying about #notall. They need to sit.

Cue the #wellactually “It’s 53% of white women who voted” and “Not this white lady!”

*eyeroll*

And he still can’t keep Obama’s name out of his goddamn fucking mouth.

I respect your perspective so I want to clarify mine. ‘You won’t help us’ puts you on the defense. But remember, we live on the defensive, in part, because we were not included in feminism’s efforts. And since we generally make less money and have less access to resources, we’re often asking  your help to come closer…

You must be kidding. Trump’s entire campaign was holding millions of brown and black people accountable for the acts of a few. But this is not what’s happening in the article or my comment. Reminding you that white women sealed the deal for Trump is not the same as a cop shooting a black child in the street because he…

If it isn’t our job to organize our people, whose is it?

This issue here IS white women. Like the kind of white women who would pick out a valid statement in an an important discussion on unity and call it dumb an unhelpful. You know, those white women who will cling desperately to any thread, however weak, in the attempt to prevent being held accountable. We were not…

Posted this above but relevant here too. If Muslims are forced constantly separate themselves from every suicide bomber/terrorist and must prove to society that they are one of the “good ones” then you can be sure white women should have to claim this.

Incorrect. Your skin gives you the ability to connect with other white people inside and outside of your personal family and friend group in ways people of color cannot. I can’t say how much influence you have, but can you honestly say you know? Have you attended any meetings at all white churches, social…

While not all other white women are your people, I would bet money some of the white women in your circle voted for trump. Or didn’t bother to vote. Or make comments about how athletes should play football and not protest. Or entertainers shouldn’t just be quiet and act/sing/direct/etc and not use their platform to…

Asking someone to acknowledge the truth is not an attack. If you don’t like how it makes you look or feel, do something different. Holding people accountable for their action or inaction is not hostile. We were never unified in an equitable relationship, therefore asking white women to own up to their role cannot tear…

Please ask yourself why this brought up so much hurt and anger, and you might gain some insight into why it’s so important NOT to get defensive. It’s not “pointing false blame” at you, so it’s not worth centering the discussion on you.

Yep.

Show public support, amplify the needs and the voices of people of color, interject when someone like you gets their goddamn panties in a wad because someone implied your race elected Donald Trump (it did).

Here it is: white women NEVER want to be blamed. Ever. I can’t count the number of times I have heard white people argue that one black person represents all black people. But somehow you are exempt from this methodology? The division is not false, it is super real, and your comment shows exactly why we still live…