How has Bryan Singer skated by for so long? He is well overdue for his Weinstein/Spacey moment.

In discussing strengths and weaknesses, I finally understand that a strength is actually something that energizes you and a weakness is something that drains you -- regardless of your ability to do either. There should be a way to divide tasks so that people can do what they hate the least, or like the most. 

In my line of work, we’re expected to figure out our backfill, with manager support as needed. If I were his boss, I would send him an ominous email that said, “Please let me know what your plan is to make sure this doesn’t happen again.” 

I’m sorry that you’re dealing with that, but it sounds like you are doing what needs to be done to see if there’s a path forward together or not.

At least you get paid for management. 

So how do you deal with that? The eyerolls and flare nostrils drive me insane. If I bring it up I’m being moody or reading too much into things, and if I don’t I’m just holding the resentment. Short of stapling his nostrils shut, how do you deal that the non-verbal bullshit?

That’s.... not healthy.

Did you cook at least half of the meals? Clean the house? Anticipate the medical needs of your kids and schedule appointments? Schedule the playdates? Make the lunches?

You’re so much better at it because you do it every fucking day. I feel like he should have to do every other chore if you’re doing that one.

I don’t mean to be rude, but your comment makes me think that you aren’t married with kids. And I say that because most moms I know have a constant, never-ending list of things scrolling in their minds that they have to anticipate and manage for others. And yes, it may be helpful to try and share that burden-- but in…

I am seriously about to cry after reading this. Just tonight I got a surly response after very gently, passively suggesting a task that he should do. And then when I got pissed (which I expressed by staring at him) he responded by asking if I had a bad day of work and then saying I was crazy for feeling like his tone…

Thank you, you are hired as my moral compass. I totally forgot that she wouldn’t condemn Woody Allen so I don’t feel bad about asking her to use her influence at LV.

I am TORN bc I want to reach out to Emma Stone’s people and ask them how they feel about Louis Vuitton giving Chris Brown a seat to their show (she’s got a deal to promote LV) BUT I feel like that’s blaming another woman for a man’s shitty behavior. 

Men like this need to stop playing the lovable doofus and the women who coparent with them need to stop “rescuing” them. This is not to say that the woman are at fault for the men’s behavior— but they need to stop rewarding this shitty attitude by swooping in to change the diaper and make dinner and comfort the crying…

True, I agree with that. Where I get defensive on her behalf (which is weird, because I normally have her on my “hate for no good reason” list) is the way in which some people talk about having a problem with alcohol as a euphemism for alcoholism. I can look back at times in my life and say that my drinking was…

Agreed about the addictive nature of weed. I’m not saying that the substance is inherently bad, but it can certainly be abused especially if someone has a predisposition to addiction. See also gambling, video games, shopping, animal rescue, etc.

THIS. Anyone have the list of shows he attended handy?

Let’s step back from the Chris Brown/celebrity examples. Has there been anyone in your life who has been controlling or abusive? Have you ever gotten into a relationship with someone that you knew was bad news? We all have examples of ignoring warning signs (or focusing on the good in someone to our own detriment).

Disagree that we should all make the leap that she had a drinking problem, but agree that the answer to drinking too much is not always weed. 

Wow, that’s a leap. I think she was just pointing out that