I guess I disagree that it makes it okay in hindsight. I just think people should be judged against the morality of their time. I'd imagine even the most liberal liberal will look like a retrograde asshole in 2116. If you aren't actively being a bigger asshole than the morality of your time allowed, I don't think we…

John Kasich is that guy one step above you on the corporate ladder who seems like a good mentor so you go out for drinks with him one day after work and he lays out his theory on ‘the blacks’ until you pretend your wife just called with a baby emergency.

Calling a historical figure racist based on the prevailing feelings of the time is silly when you are comparing them to everyone else who is also racist at the time. It is true, but useless for comparison. Especially when followed by Woodrow Wilson.

Stop kink shaming me!!!

Don’t trust the cannibal just ’cos he’s usin’ a knife and fork!”

I don’t think anyone who knows anything about Teddy Roosevelt would call him the adult in the room. The dude did everything possible to create the Spanish American war (as Sec of the Navy) for the sole purpose of him being able to fight in a war.

And cigarettes. And ferrets.

Wow. That’s rich (yes, pun intended) coming from the white billionaire. As a black woman who grew up in a school system that was 90% white and went to undergrad and grad school at PWIs it was a relief to be a part of black student organizations. It was so tiring spending my life having to explain myself and black…

I wonder what the public discussion over “safe spaces” would look like if we first all attempted to agree on exactly what a “safe space” is. Because I feel like this issue is an excuse for people to free associate on what it sounds like to them and argue over the feelings it inspires, instead of, like, concrete…

That she came in via H1-B is awful. I have PhD’s in mathematics sweating out the h1-B lottery each year, hoping they are not on a plane back to whatever country they came from. Many don’t get selected and must leave. It’s a very competitive program, built to help fill the massive number of jobs available for highly…

golden, just like his tualets

“Melania Trump’s hobbies..., include Pilates and reading magazines”

Just don’t ask her the “gotcha question” of which magazines?

Sometimes being a Dad merely boils down to getting someone pregnant, and I resent being made to feel like I’m in his eternal debt because he ejaculated that one time.

Oh condolences on your lost baby! My youngest brother died at about that age and it’s so hard — he was a real person! But a baby, which makes everyone so sad that they mostly can’t deal with it.

Actually the opposite! It means that they felt secure enough to explore the world. So good job :)

My engagement party. A woman raked me over the coals about my dad and grandmother, who both screwed me over. “but she’s your GRANDMOTHER.” A grandmother who dropped off my Christmas presents on my doorsteps 3 days before Christmas and refused to speak to me when I busted her doing it. Yea, I’M GOOD BUT THANKS FOR YOUR…

Please give me the strength. I’m browsing Jezebel from the bathroom I’m pretending to need to use while avoiding A Required Family Event.

I haven’t had to break from my parents, but I’m a big encourager of those who need to do that for their mental and emotional health. I can’t stand the “but, but, but... they’re your PARENTS” people. Having sex that one time does not a family make. And neither does paying for stuff. Family is about love and support and…

Thanks for this piece, Natasha. For me it’s my Dad who I had to blacklist. I still get really tired of people who tell me “but but but he’s your Dad”. So what. He was no father. Sometimes being a Dad merely boils down to getting someone pregnant, and I resent being made to feel like I’m in his eternal debt because he…

My dad had to do this with not just his mother, but his two toxic sisters too. After his dad died, he had no tie to his side of the family any more. I remember we were constantly either not talking to them or, when we were talking, we were fighting. 10 years ago he said he was 100% done, and hasn’t spoken to them…