Ugh. Can we talk about man caves? These bother me on so many levels. Why does a man need a retreat? Does he just get to go into his cave when the kids are bothering him? Does he really need a room dedicated to manly pursuits?

My mom was also a lab tech (was, as in she retired, not that she is gone)!

Agreed. I see my husband struggle sometimes (because he’s actually pulling his weight), and I think it would be a really useful conversation for men to have. 

People are constantly asking me what my husband thinks of me doing xyz. My answer is always:

My girlfriend’s parents routinely thank me for “putting up” with their daughter. Not for anything in particular my girlfriend does; they’re very nice people but they just like to say this fucked up thing. I always try to push back a little so hopefully they’ll cut it out. 

My partner struggles with insomnia and we have lot of friend who are in service/bar industry. I have desks job. It’s very common for him to go out later and hang out with friends for last call or after the bars close alone. i get asked if I “let” him or “how can you be ok with him out late alone” all the time. It pisse…

Ha, my actual mother asked my husband how he puts up with me. It took me a little longer to unfriend her on FB and in real life but I did eventually.

I mean, what she did was terrible and all, but I’ll give her credit for brining me and my mom closer together. My mom worked as a lab tech for forty years, and we love to goss over each new tidbit that comes out about this crazy lady.

Yea, no one asks male celebrities in public situations but it’s always asked of women.

yeah, ew.

I could understand if the question was worded as “How do the two of you deal with your different careers potentially conflicting with each other.” But it’s painfully obvious most of the people who would even be asking this question would never mean it in this way.

This is the equivalent of asking a woman how she balances her career and motherhood.  Nobody EVER asks and man how they balance their career and fatherhood.  In the Hollywood Reporter round tables, the conversations between the men and women groups is pretty concerning.

Ha, my mother-in-law asked my husband the same thing after she “friended” me on Facebook and saw that I’m a crass, loudmouth leftie. He isn’t very close to her (she’s done some pretty fucked up shit) and so I’ve only been around her a handful of times. I promptly unfriended her when he told me. 

My friend with MS wants a fancy one like Selma’s so she can use it with her tiara.

Yay! The only way to actually diagnose for MS is with an MRI or a spinal tap. Get the MRI if you can, spinal taps suuuck.

I’ve been going through this for two years - and am putting off going back to the doctor because I hate being told I don’t handle stress well. Apparently stress makes eyes go blurry and fingers tingle and toes/feet go numb- and I get that - but I’m not particularly stressed right now? Anyways your post inspired me to…

Same with fibro and CFS/ME (I have the latter). They don’t have treatments so lots of doctors just ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Some med schools are trying to switch to more integrated systems of educating doctors. I’m so excited for future patients! It’s absurd how silo’d the specialties are.

I get it. Dealing with chronic pain, especially as a woman, is the worst. Mine began after a hysterectomy from presumed nerve damage but eventually morphed into pain in abdomen, back and legs, for the past twenty years. Mostly I was told it was psychological, etc...took many years to even get as far as a diagnosis of…

I’ve been following her announcements with interest. Was diagnosed with MS almost 10 years ago. And, like her, it took a while for doctors to take me seriously. Optic neuritis was a sprain from snowboarding. Numbness was back issues. Fatigue was laziness. It’s shocking how uneducated doctors are about the symptoms of…