So are you alright with the idea of being cheated on as long as you don’t know it’s happening? Do you think it’s ok for your girlfriend/wife to cheat on you as long as she makes sure you never find out? Is that something you’d let her know early on in the relationship? Like, “Hey baby, do me a favor, if you ever…

You mentioned somewhere else here that you had been cheated on. Do you wish you never found out? Did it end the relationship?

He is available to his clients 24/7, but for the most part he has a couple of bread and butter clients and they don’t bother him during, say, sleeping hours. Most issues get discussed between 8am and 6pm. I think that those owning their own businesses put in a lot more work than “employees”, and the result is that…

That’s true, not everything can be done in this way. I don’t think either are “better” than the other, and I disagree with Trunk’s assertion that employees should “pay a premium” for the benefit of being employees. Ignoring the fact that they already do, financially, there should be concrete boundaries between work…

Lying, and thus cheating, does show a profound disrespect for the person you’re sharing your life with. It’s saying “my desires trump your right to the truth”. It shows contempt for your partner. That is indeed a symptom of serious problems in a relationship. The fact that it’s so ubiquitous is no reason to accept it…

...and trying to present it as taking one for the team, doing it for the kids...what a hero!!

I’m sure she’s into sex, just not into sex with HIM. I wonder why that is. Is he not concerned with her needs in the bedroom? Has he made an attempt? Or is she just some object to him that isn’t performing the way it used to, so he feels he has the right to look elsewhere? I’m guessing there are other issues causing…

There is a lot of pressure in our society to get married, and for marriage to look a certain way. Ditto for sex. “Good” sex is the sex you see in porn. If life doesn’t live up to romance movies and/or porn, something must be wrong!

Somehow I doubt that you’d be alright with your partner cheating as long as you never knew about it.

Right, but do you agree you should pay a premium to have an employer? Because that’s what she’s talking about, not whether or not people put their job ahead of their personal lives for 8 or 10 hours a day. She’s saying put it ahead, full stop. She’s suggesting that for the sake of having an employer rather than being…

I don’t think she meant “put your job before your personal life” as “go to work when expected instead of doing yoga all day”. everybody does that whether they're self employed or not.

Ikr. I’ve become quite skeptical about what men say about dating sites. Something I heard from some guys I met on there was that women were expecting to go out with guys “out of their league”. Supposedly this is because so many men are on there trying to get a date that women get to thinking they’re hot stuff and…

I worked for Starbucks for way too long. For some reason it really attracts these types, who want incredibly complicated/nitpicky orders and also want to tell you how to punch it in so they don’t actually have to pay for half the special items they want. Ugh.

I saw some kids rolling on those things the other day. Hovering, they were not.

Which wife would you rather be?

“That married women who want to flirt and feel someone desire them will go on sites and soak up that attention, but then bail when it’s time to go to the next step. They’ll just delete their profile and then disappear.”

Yeah, I’m pretty sure she needs to have a say in this. It’s not only up to him what’s best for the kids. Who knows if/when/how she is going to find out and the effect it would have on the family.

As a wife-type, I think I’d be equally enraged by either situation.

It’s quite a narcissistic attitude. “My sexuality, my needs”. I think he revealed a lot with “I know everyone would like to believe that marriage and family can be perfect if you just work at it, but I think most adults when they get to a certain age find that it’s never that simple.” Dude, give your head a shake.…

Yes, but, do you believe you should put your employer before your personal life because of this? Just as an example, in my field a consulting company farms someone like me out for around $90-140 an hour while paying me around $25-$50 an hour. I don’t believe that for this great favor I need to put my personal life…