You know, when you’re famous, they let you do it.

I remarked to a friend recently that I think I’m too nice, and some take advantage of that. But otoh, if you’re too aggressive, they don’t want to work with you.

So I’m staying in tonight because freelancing sucks. Nobody pays in a timely manner anymore. I’m waiting for checks that go back six months. Every day that I open the mailbox and there’s nothing in it, I have a mini rage stroke.

Uh....no. Correct pronouns are not a privilege to be revoked if someone steps out of line, commits a crime, etc. Just use the right fucking pronouns and stop whining about it. Singular “they” has been in use in the English language for ages and is widely considered correct, anyhow:

oh shut up and fuck off

lol you sound triggered, maybe reconsider your stance on trigger warnings? They could save you from a lot of future emotional turmoil.

“Donald Trump is what a hobo imagines a rich man to be.....”

That cartoon chafes at my perception. In my experience “average people” are people who don’t put any effort into learning and doing new things or further developing skills they already have beyond the bare minimum.

I read an article a while ago, the title was something like “What if all I want is a mediocre life?” The woman who wrote it talked about how she is content, but seems to be surrounded by people who are always striving for something more.

I read it in full today. Kara is right. You never need to read another word about Dolezal. It’s fantastically well written. It exposes her to the bone.

If you were capable of lying with every cell of your body, you also could have multiple failed marriages.

I got my dream job. Literally my dream job. I start in May. I am freaking out. I now have to quit my job and move and start this huge new process but I’m so fucking thrilled and I can’t believe it. Holy shit. It’s not quite official but I’m waiting for my contract to be sent to me (Tuesday) before I announce it but…

Every time.

So here’s a different perspective. I work in health care with mostly older patients, and I have elderly parents. For most of us, aging involves an increase in aches and pains & health issues. You can’t physically do the things you used to, you get irritable, your memory isn’t what it once was, your social circle…

You’re welcome, I agree.

I very much dislike my MiL as well. She sounds similar to yours - lacks any real depth or individuality. She also is extremely shallow and constantly talks how much her fancy (yet ugly) things cost.

But what has she done that has been truly toxic? Complaining about MIL and husband seems like her worst offenses. Otherwise, she seems like she’s trying really hard to be OP’s friend.

Your step-MIL is not the person who’s coming across as toxic here.

Minimize the time you spend with her but be kind when you’re together. When she’s dead you’ll regret the times you were unkind, never the times you were kind. I speak from a certain amount of experience.

Jeez. I feel bad for your husband’s stepmother. My advice is to try and be a little kinder.