But:

Can someone PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD cover how every fucking high ranking government predecessor has done this on some level for fucking ever? Like, can we talk about all the emails that disappeared at the end of the Bush administration? No? We want to KEEP TALKING ABOUT THIS?

I wish I could say this was uncommon. But growing up in fundamentalism, we were taught that the only acceptable emotion was happy and blessed. You weren’t allowed to be angry or sad or disappointed. I wasn’t in a cult like this (Thank the Lord,) but what I was taught wasn’t so different. I actually had to learn how to…

If anything, it might reduce her workload, seeing as how she won’t need to “service” him in the innumerable ways he expects on an immediate, daily basis.

Hearing about the way her parents raised their children makes me very sad.

Not everyone realizes monogamy isn’t for them prior to being in a long term relationship.

You have to make a lot of assumptions about his behavior to jump to those conclusions. You don’t know that he’s having unsafe sex. You don’t know that their finances are at risk.

Word. I am seriously shocked at the judginess here. I am also shocked at the sheer number of “I’ve been cheated on a million times” comments. It’s not about you, it’s about each person getting to choose his or her now path. That is the very crux of feminism. Stop complaining and pointing at other people and take…

This is for everyone here moralizing about how terrible this guy is: he gets off on cheating. He literally has a cheating fetish. As long as his wife doesn’t find out, nobody—literally nobody—gets hurt.

Well, then. Let’s just make sure all the HIV-positive people are locked up, too. That way none of them can lie to unwitting partners, right?

Oh yes, if YOUR partner was found to be a cheater, that is YOUR business. It is not the WORLD’S business. By all means, check on your spouse - see if they had an account and do whatever you feel necessary if you find out they cheated. But it is not MY business whether or not YOUR spouse cheating on YOU.

I like exposing hypocrites, like Duggar, who are trying to influence national policy with their lies. I’m down with that.

I’m glad to see I’m not the only one feeling this way. When this story broke, I was initially chortling along with everyone else, but I’m finding myself more and more feeling sorry for the people who’ve fallen into it—even Josh Duggar.

I don't know - we're going through the same thing, except I'm the one with a greater sex drive than my husband. There's also the same type of feeling - well, we're friends and living together isn't too bad, we're just not sex-compatible. I guess it happens.

Is it just me that gives zero fucks about the people on AM? Like, that’s their personal life - it’s none of my business. You wanna cheat on your spouse, you go do that. Free will and all that shit.

‪”I feel like that is the untold story of this data leak—how many people just aren’t getting a sexual connection they want. And rather than talk about how people could solve this problem, everyone is just moralizing.”

Thanks for posting this article. I actually found it pretty interesting (unlike almost every commenter here, lol). I just wanted to mention that as someone who has mostly (almost exclusively) lived life outside of monogamous relationships, I always find passionate moralizing about infidelity fascinating. I mean,…

When you’ve gone 9 months and she isn’t interested in sex and no romancing gets her in the mood and you’ve had this conversation 20 times only to never come to a satisfactory resolution? It’s pretty hard.

Oh absolutely. But we can’t leap to these conclusions about the wife, either. Her libido may have died for reasons that don’t have anything to do with him. Maybe their chemistry together just stopped working. We have no idea what their story is.

I’m all for this guy trying to have a better sex life, but at the expense of betraying his wife? “And ultimately the role we play together as parents feels more important than my splitting us up so that I can seek out potential pussy options.” - Shouldn’t his wife have some say in this? If he thinks it’s ok to step…