I don’t know if I can take this again this year.

I hate to do this, but I’m going to hijack this to ask that someone at Jezebel or Gawker please ban the spam account Mangini in a Bottle, who is posting paragraphs about rapes or sexual assaults as replies to random peoples’ comments . I’ve flagged the user almost a dozen times in the past week and still no one’s done…

I had a beloved tia who was an amazing impact on my life in almost very way... except that when i was a teen she would constantly pester me about my sexuality. No answer or non-answer was sufficient for her beyond coming out as gay, at a time when I wasn’t prepared to take on that label. She was so sure I was gay. “You…

I would love to take this time to remind everyone to never pressure or force anyone to come out. People choose not to come out because they are at risk of losing friends, family, housing, employment, healthcare, and in quite a few cases (transgender people in particular) their physical safety.

“Get out of my uterus” is my battle cry, too. HEY CHRISSY WE’RE THE SAME.

Want to know why the chicken on the right is so much bigger?

HAMILTON AND FUN HOME

My “type” is men who are Black, mostly Black, Blackish, or Hispanic with a decent helping of melanin, with lots of variation within those groups. My boyfriend is 6’3” and medium brown, my ex-husband is 5’3” and Puerto Rican/Panamanian. I dated a guy with pale skin, green eyes, and blonde dreds once. I find people like…

Asking for a little self-awareness in your own attractions to people, and a little tact in how that plays out in real life, is not even in the same zip code as “YOU MUST BE AN EQUAL OPPORTUNITY FUCKER AT ALL TIMES.”

Oh yeah for sure. I think that’s the biggest thing for me - I’m sure many (if not most) of us have racial preferences in dating, but only a certain handful are vocal about it in such a concrete way as “I refuse to date x race.” Those people are almost sure to be blatantly racist in other parts of their lives I would…

You’re misreading what I said. I didn’t express that a preference for one particular race was wrong. My use of the word “alone” was about people who refuse to date people of particular race, like the example provided by The Gaysian elsewhere in this comment thread.

Also, I think there’s a big difference of having a preference and STATING out loud that you have a preference. It may just so happen that someone likes pale skin or darker skin (or, conversely, is turned off by either of those things). But saying, “I will only date this race or that race,” or “I will not date this…

I don’t think that’s what the OP was saying. It’s more like - if your sole criteria for dating is that the person be a certain race, that is problematic and yes, indicates racist beliefs. That is decidedly different than having a preference but being open to dating people of different races because you’re focused on…

This would be me too but with Pan’s Labrynth

Dear Target...

I’ll take either one.