I’ve never associated the southern accent with blackness at all, but I used to wonder why a lot of black people who’ve never set foot in the south had a sorta southern twang, I always thought it was sort of put-on, an affect. Eventually I learned more about AAVE so it makes sense now. 

His schtick is going to fail him at the debates. It works in the events he seems to choose - say a few words, kiss babies, shake hands, soak in the attention and head on down the road.

I think the age thing is a huge factor. With only one exception, everyone I’ve heard saying Biden is their favorite have been old people. Old people who are ‘low information voters’, FWIW. The exception was someone who said she’s only favoring Biden b/c she thinks he has the best chance at beating Trump (not b/c she…

“...respecting people’s boundaries by avoiding the small of their back is the bare minimum—a basic standard of polite human interaction.”

Yep, I’d be satisfied if it just managed the tumbleweeds. 

Thanks for the recommendation! Added to my Amazon list. Still a little pricier than I’d want to go, but I know in the past I’ve regretted cheaping out on vacuum purchases (R.I.P., my old Dyson).

I do live in Indiana :-P

Thank you! I’ll look into that ($125 on Amazon right now). I’m not up for paying $500, either, and I wondered if a cheaper version of Roomba is good enough.

Well then this article isn’t about you. And kudos to you and your brothers for being among the helpful ones. But I assure you this is a very real issue for a plurality of couples. 

“You be the grownup and figure it out.”

I explained to my SO the mind-boggling reality that there’s absolutely no reason he should have more ‘sitting around time’ than I do. We both work full time, contribute 50-50 financially, I do all of the cooking and grocery shopping and, until that conversation, almost everything housework-wise. He mows the lawn for…

Some of the men I work with, too. Intelligent, hard-working guys, but we have a lunch meeting and when they finish eating they just....they leave all their shit on the table and walk away! They’ll leave it there for days. We don’t have a custodial staff. I’m the only woman in the meetings. Who do they think is going…

I have one boyfriend and one dog in a small, 2 bedroom, 1 bath house. I thought about it and I spend about 2 hours a day on cooking, cleaning, and laundry (prob 30 minutes before work and 90 mins after). On the weekends I’ll do it in a solid 2 hour block of deeper cleaning. If you add grocery shopping, the amount…

My SO recently left a used plastic grocery bag on the floor of the living room for a week. I just left it there thinking of course he’ll pick it up and throw it away, it’s right there when he walks in the front door every single day, you can’t miss it. And I have a drawer in the kitchen where I keep some of those bags…

SAME! And I’m doing my part by breaking up with one man baby years ago and when my current SO and I ran into the same issue, I put my foot down and told him I’m not his mother, he’s an intelligent adult who needs to figure out on his own what needs to be done and do it, and that there’s no reason he should have more…

I keep thinking of doing that, I have a big hairy dog and vacuum every day. Is it pretty effective? Would you mind telling me the model you bought?

UGGGHHHHHHHHH forever @ “yeah well if you ever want something done you will have to.” Fuck no. I do not want to date/live with/sleep with a man child. With my ex, it resulted in breaking up, too. With my current SO, we inevitably went through the same issue and I told him I refused to treat him like he’s a child who…

Kudos to you on not treating your boyfriend like a child, mine tried that ‘I want to help! Just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!’ shit with me and I refused b/c that’s SUCH a cop-out. I told him we’re in our late 30s, no one has ever in my adult life had to tell me what to do in order to keep a house running, I…

Anecdotal, but my lawn takes 45 minutes to mow with a push mower and that only needs to be done once a week and that’s only from, say, April-October. I spend about 2 hours a day on cleaning, cooking, and laundry.

I completely relate. Even when I was paycheck-to-paycheck, I gave up other things to be able to have a once-every-other-week house cleaner - only when I had roommates or lived with a boyfriend. When it’s just me and my dog it’s easy to keep everything clean on my own.