Women like to tell everyone they are above all that but they aren’t.

I’d rather date someone who is actually bitter and jaded as compared to someone who tries to come off like they are bitter and jaded but is really a lost, confused mess of a person who’s life hasn’t been half as hard as they think it has.

“Lay his hands on me.”

I haven’t read the recommended book “Why does he do that?”, but I have read “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin De Becker (which I greatly recommend), and he points out that each episode of physical violence is a test to see if you will continue to accept the rules of the relationship as he gives them to you. This likely…

Agree. I am a 40 year old single woman. The only times I ever felt bad about being alone is when society (family or facebook) makes me feel like there’s something wrong with ME because I haven’t found “the one”. Also, I don’t feel 40 and nobody believes I’m that age. I feel young and I look as young as i feel. I…

Exactly. I changed my name to a great grandmothers maiden name and use that, but haven’t legally changed it because he could track it down in a court record. I don’t do facebook anymore at all. The first year was hard and isolating, but I actually think it improves the quality of my life in the long run. Hurt: think…

Is he actually texting anything you should be worried about or is he just chatting with a friend. This is something that I have seen female friends of male friends constantly make mistakes about.

HOWEVER, if he hit you, you need to get out of it. Sounds like early 20's at most and if he is showing that behavior now, it…

Holy moly. RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN. Run away. Do not stay or go back to that relationship at all.

LW, here’s the answer:

Right? A lot of people here are ready to crucify her rather than a dude who was beating on his SO.

Dear Hurt Again,

The FIRST time someone puts their hands on you must be the LAST and ONLY time they do it. There is no excuse for it, no justification, no anything. It should be an absolute line in the sand that is never crossed. Leave now and don’t look back.

Run, girl, run. Now. And once you and your pets are in a safe place, Google “How to Do No Contact.” Because no contact at all is the only thing that works. He’ll keep “laying hands on you” until you’re dead.

Hurt, it really doesn’t matter whether it was your fault or not. An abuser is like a wild animal that tastes blood. They start to crave it. It gets to a point where even if you don’t do anything wrong, they will invent a reason to hit you. Every action, word or facial expression will be policed until you “step out of…

Leave and get a restraining order to keep him away from you. Don’t give him a third opportunity to batter you.

My sister recently got out of a physically abusive relationship. The I’m sorry please forgive me I’ll never do it again act is classic Jekyll and Hyde that you see in domestic abusers. Don’t rule out going to a shelter for battered women, they can provide you with the resources you’ll need, and trust me, it will…

No abusive partner in any relationship deserves another chance.

I mean, obviously leave his ass but when did talking to people of the opposite sex constitute cheating? I feel like I’m missing something here. Should I keep my wife from talking to male friends? Why would I want to do that?

1. Get the fuck out of there. Move as far away from him as you can.
2. Ghost the fuck out of him. Delete your social media presence, change your number, block his number. Do not contact him again. Do not look back. NEVER reconnect with him, never get sloppy drunk and hit him up with a “how are you” text.
3. Get…

Dear Hurt Again,