Spoken as a woman who does not want biological kids: I know a ton about this stuff and I have not sought that info out. I’m old enough that many of my acquaintances are on kid number 2 at this point, so my Facebook feed is often a nightmare of scary medical stories about how much pregnancy and birth can potentially…

Also yeah, I know I am blamed by a few people even though I hadn’t spoken to him in years. Very weird space to fill in the narrative, and one that pulls me emotionally back and forth.

Thank you :) I have, I just still have so much empathy for this kind of thing (and some bad days, but that’s any bad life experience).

I appreciate the internet hugs and return them. It’s a weird space of human experience and it’s always nice to know that others have lived through it too.

As someone who had an almost identical experience (I mean mas o menos, I am not a celebrity, I also did not immediately get engaged) I’ve been feeling for her so hard ever since he passed. It’s about 4 years on for me and I still get caught up in guilt & grief & anger &.... it is a very unfriendly cocktail of emotions…

Yeah when I go through stressful transitions, especially breakups, I completely lose my appetite. Like to the point where I struggle to eat, and it can last for months even while I generally feel OK mood-wise. So as a result I drop a ton of weight. I ended a serious relationship earlier this year and dropped 4 pant…

My first love was an absolutely magical all-in kind of situation, and the heartbreak I experienced when it ended felt like it would actually kill me. But in my mid-30s now, when I talk to friends who didn’t have that Crazy First Love experience, I feel like I got lucky to experience it. (Also the guy’s a sweetheart so…

Just wanted to say that “He was a source of amusement to us kids and a source of heartache and headaches for my mother.” is a perfect sentence.

Oof yours sounds even scarier because it could just be any random person. At least in my case it was one guy that my coworkers had met before so I had a fighting chance that they’d notice him before he got in (not me, because I had no windows). I remember one night we all left like an hour or so late because someone…

My first job out of college, I was the receptionist. They had to fire someone who particularly hated me (she saw me as taking her job, although I’d had nothing to do with her losing hers). She had a son who was unstable and on drugs and my boss was nervous enough about the threat of violence that he started keeping…

If you google Jezebel “look at me” scary story they apparently made a short video of it and it popped up right away for me

I love her acting and we have similar Good Places! Mine would be more of a nightly dance party than a sit down concert, but I would also hope that everyone I love had also somehow died with me. Sorry, friends. I hope you like dancing?

Yes! The consent process is actually sexy as hell. Like sometimes it’s verbal, sometimes it’s non-verbal, but that escalation is so fun... (with people you trust, of course). 

Probably before the appetizers are even served.

I like to dance so I’m out in night life quite a bit, but the guys at the places I go to tend to be like “do you want to make out?” and if I say “no” they say something like “OK! have a great night!” and we both go on our merry ways. I’ve also had guy friends where *I* was that one who got drunk or just sentimental or…

Agreed! I’m not on the single-forever train (although that’s a good train to be on) but I don’t really see myself committing to relationship-forever either. Like I guess it would be nice if I met someone who made me feel that way? But I like both ways of living. I like having a partner, I like being single. I like…

Oh what a nightmare position to be put in. Good luck to you.

I feel you. My bipolar, physically abusive, controlling ex died by suicide 3 years after we broke up and his friends got in touch to tell me that his mom wanted to talk to me, and under no circumstances to talk to her, because she seemed to think it was my fault.

Yes! Although for me my first instinct is to defuse the situation by being nice... it’s only like 2 minutes later when I’m like “I should’ve punched that guy in the face”

Also, I'm not afraid to make a scene if it's actively happening... But usually I'm so shocked that by the time I formulate my thoughts it's over and then I feel like I would look crazy.