1) The “brainwashed” comment came from ERW herself.

1) Your only focus is to force me into accepting violence against women.

It’s like genx girls had to pretend to like Quentin Tarantino’s movies and millenial girls have to pretend to not mind BDSM. Of course Quentin turned out to be a creep and a creep enabler and of course most men who are into BDSM or other ‘kinks’ that involve degrading women are also creeps. That there are women who…

It must be very difficult for her to reveal these experiences. I wonder if I can empathise. I went through a kink-loving phase, still have all the toys and outfits to prove it. But my first relationship was with someone a few years older, more experienced, and a dominant. As a sub and newbie to kink I readily let him…

Anyone suggesting that sexually fantasizing about  CANIBALISM could ever be a harmless kink, rather than a mental illness, needs to GTFO. An easy test is this: if I were to have a female child with this person, would I still think the kink is ok and be totally comfortable parenting with them? If not, it’s not a kink.…

You’re reducing what she went through to the point that you view her as just a victim- she was manipulated through the guise of BDSM practices.

BDSM itself is problematic. Yes it’s possible for two people to do it consensually without causing harm, but the desire to harm itself is not right. If people don’t like to hear that it’s because they are twisted themselves and don’t want to get called out on their bullshit. 

Exactly. I see a teenage girl and think "child" not "potential romantic partner".

I’m a woman about to turn 50. People in their 20s and early 30s I see as young adults or younger, not as potential partners. 

I have thought a lot about this, and judgmental though it may be, I cannot trust a man that would want to *simulate* hurting a woman (not even counting the psychos that want to do this for real). I am totally being sexist, but I would trust a woman, but not a man.

Yes it’s a fair position. People who get off women being (or pretending to be) in pain or in fear do not need to be ashamed, but they do need to look at those impulses in the context of rape culture and misogyny. It isn’t shaming someone to say that something is not particularly healthy. Not all sexual impulses are…

I remember when my younger brother was in high school, one of his friends was dating some guy in his late 20's/early 30's and she thought it was pretty cool.

It’s the inexperience that puts young people in danger though, and makes easy prey for men like Marilyn Manson, Armie Hammer, and any number of high-profile murder cases wherein the victim is blamed for “their lifestyle”.

Right. I reserve judgment normally, because I’m not involved in that world, and I don’t understand it. So yeah, I”m torn between my innate jump to conclusions and the fact that there can be a lot more going on. In this situation, Marilyn Manson probably couched his rape and abuse as a dominant, but they aren’t the…

As an older man, just about person, especially an older one, asking or wanting to do BDSM things with a much younger person is automatically suspect. My life is pretty vanilla, but it’s important to recognize that age differences are profound power dynamic differences in relationships. Raping someone isn’t a kink.

Evie Lupine, a BDSM educator on Youtube, actually did a recent breakdown of the whole Armie Hammer situation where she addressed some of that. One thing she pointed out is that it wasn’t just that they were young, but in part because of that, they were very inexperienced in BDSM and that allowed him to blow past…

I’m torn between understanding the submissive side, but having either known, or known of, way too many men who went too far, didn’t respect boundaries or just flat out committed assault, I don’t trust men who are “dominant”. I’m not trying to kink-shame, but these are security issues that override any idea of being…

I think that discounts the naivity that comes with being a teenager/VERY YOUNG adult, and the level of manipulation coming from the older person. At 40 I am horrified by what I “allowed” to happen to me in my 20's, and I wouldn’t have realized this until I watched friends/ read news stories where the outcomes were…

Wtf is in the hipster gentrification ass coffee up in Jezebel? First Rich’s affluent ass article, now this???

My own edit- “The pandemic fucking sucks; ***hundreds of*** thousands of people have and are dying and everyone would all like it to be over as soon as possible”