Several commenters have already pointed this out, but just to reiterate: THIS WAS NOT A FUNERAL. IT WAS A MEMORIAL SERVICE...IN A STADIUM...FILLED WITH CHEERING, DANCING, EXCITED PEOPLE. This was a traditional celebration of the life of Mandela. The solemn mourning will take place at his ACTUAL FUNERAL AND BURIAL,…

I find it ridiculous that black women in this country know perfectly well that there is a long history of stereotyping us as the "angry black woman", particularly with regard to the idea of "our man" flirting with another woman or not acting right, that it has been applied to us from the days of the minstrel show to…

You focused on the responsibility, and not the follow-up: It means it may be the hardest thing in the world to do so. That may be for a variety of reasons, ones we as outsiders are certainly not entirely privy to. This is why blaming and lack of empathy are so counterproductive. We don't have all the facts, and we…

There are no easy answers to this one. Everyone must determine how much weight they can bear for themselves, and no more. It does no good to not erect boundaries for yourself, to ignore self-care, and especially to put oneself in the danger zone, in which you become vulnerable to violence yourself, or exacerbate the…

Marshaling the strength and emotional wherewithal to extricate oneself from a dangerous relationship is not a process aided by blame or shame, especially given that when a woman leaves an abusive relationship, this is often the time in which they are most at risk, both physically from the abuser, and mentally and…

As a mental health professional, I am loathe to engage clinically or diagnostically with someone I don't know on the internet. But your post strongly suggests there are some unresolved issues for you with the abuse that you suffered and how to reconcile the need to feel empowered and a sense of agency with what you…

I wish you could have seen the discussion on the FB page of writer Tami Winfrey Harris between her, myself, blogger and activist Andrea Plaid, and others, on this very issue. The consensus amongst these womanists, who very deliberately reject "feminist" as a label for ourselves, is to form coalitions to work on…

"Jezebel does not care about black rape victims."

They do an adorable pledge plea for the local PBS station in NYC. They've got to bring in the contributions like a flood. The sight of them together fills me with inexplicable joy.

Here is the perspective of an actual expert on the legal implications here: http://www.onthemedia.org/story/goldiebl…

I don't have to be Asian or Asian American to call this for the racist bullshit it is. And given that Japan has a long history of cultural appropriation from the West, perhaps it's not viewed as problematically as it is here. The popularity of darky and blackface iconography in Japan may speak to that. Regardless,…

I really hope everyone on this thread defending her with the "This wasn't racist, it was ignorant" and "we use the word racist too freely" will read this shit because...THIS IS RACIST. If you can't understand that there is more to racism than belonging to the Klan (because who the fuck even does anymore?) or dragging…

Praise Wave.

You claim to be a writer, yet you clearly don't understand the meaning of the word "premise", which I addressed in a section you quoted: "the whole premise on which the article is predicated is flawed." There is a difference between the reason behind the article, which is ostensibly to examine how a coaching change…

OMG! I had forgotten about this, but I don't see how. I think this commercial helped me to realize I might have proclivities in both directions. Wonder Woman, indeed...

Just because people disagree with the article and dislike its form and tone, does not mean they did not read it. I've been following tennis for over 30 years, particularly the Williams' sisters, as they are kind of important to tennis overall, but especially in the African American community. No one claimed the…

Because mental illness doesn't cause racism, homophobia or misogyny, and because its incredibly ableist to imply otherwise or equate them, and because Rob Ford ran for election, refuses to resign, constantly gives press conferences and puts himself in front of cameras, and has done nothing even resembling seeking…

And of course they had to go to the "linked romantically" rumor, which pretty much isn't a rumor and is still irrelevant. Serena is the one out there on the court, and what she needed was recovery and rehab time. I'm not dismissing that she and Mourathoglou have been good for each other, but he wasn't exactly around…

Oh. I bought House of Flying Daggers for this man. Oof, he's lovely.

I was NOT prepared for that. Palpitations and shortness of breath have ensued...