I think it’s pretty shitty to say: “Do Option A or Option B or you’re an idiot.” Not everyone’s lives fit into those tiny little boxes you’re describing. Here’s a real puzzle for you- I work over an hour from my hospital. Should I plan a well-thought-out workbirth? Or wait, you’ll probably tell me I should stop…

Bread too. A few moldy pieces doesn’t mean it’s through the whole loaf too.

Really? Stay less than an hour from the hospital for an entire month? You know that due dates are estimates right? How is this feasible for anyone?

This woman knows nothing about me.

When I had my child out of wedlock, his father was required to produce an affidavit of parentage to get on the birth certificate. Just a piece of paper he signed saying “Yup, he’s mine.” It’s a legal finding of paternity, with all rights and responsibilities granted therein. Why can’t they just do that?

Is it normal to be in the ICU for ten days for finger surgery?

Judges need to listen to moms. Moms need to NEVER lie about their ex, no matter how pissed off they are, because it breaks down the system of justice that maybe could work if parents never used their children as weapons. That is an utterly terrible story.

In my limited personal experience, I heard quite a few horror stories where parents had to force their kids to attend visitation with a custodial parent that they did not want to see. The most extreme case was supervised visitation with a parent who had molested a child. She was forced to sit in a room with him, and…

So how does that play out? I’m confused. What if she drives them to his house or wherever visitation is supposed to happen, and they don’t get out of the car? Is that “making them available?” Who wrestles them over to the father if they don’t want to go?

But did your custodial parent get in trouble? That’s where I’m not understanding this.... While I think it’s bizarre that the children in this case are being punished, I would think that their mom, if she was ordered to provide them for visitation and did not, would be held in contempt.

OMG that’s sexy. He’s so cool about it. Thanks for sharing!

No. I know the person’s life and it’s not a happy one. So whatever makes her feel better I guess. I can handle it, but I don’t think the “Fucking bitch” part was warranted at all. I’m pretty over the comments on my or other people’s looks. It’s when they are nasty and imply that there’s something hateable about me…

On the flip side, dad controlling daughter’s looks... maybe not something to rejoice so much about. My daughter dresses herself and could care less about her hair, because both my husband and I don’t want her to focus on looks. My dad liked to brush my hair and looking back, it was a way for him to focus his attention…

Solidarity. I’ve been hearing the disgusted “Ugh, you’re so skinny” for my whole life and it doesn’t make me feel any less shitty than someone hearing “Ugh, you’re so fat.” I’m largely pregnant and at a party recently, someone actually said to my face “Fucking bitch, you’re pregnant and you’re still skinny!” What?

Eww. Dammit.

Wow. Seriously. This is totally therapeutic for me today. It’s my birthday today, so I awoke contemplating my ‘path’ to here. I’m also getting ready to say goodbye to my kids for ten days, starting tomorrow, which has literally never happened in their whole lives, and which is not my choice. It doesn’t sound like a…

Thank you for saying this today. I needed to hear it.

Just be prepared for not everyone to get along all the time, or maybe not even get along at all. A dear friend of mine is an only child and she had a lot of children, and has been miserable for the last ten years as her children have become adults and carved out their own lives, sometimes rejecting one another because…

Sometimes I remember back to when my husband was just a crush. It’s hotter in some way. And I love him much much more now. But those moments when we caught eyes and I caught on fire. Seered into my brain.

Makes sense. Thanks.