Totally ok.

Hang in there. I promise it will get easier. And hey, you’re playing video games, so there- you’re doing it already. Also, a lock on the door can help ;)

One of the keys that I’ve realized three kids later (and expecting #4) is that it is all absorbing at first, and then as they grow and move away from you, you can re-establish or sort of ‘get back to’ who you were before. You cannot tell an infant to get her own juice when she’s crying, but you can and should tell a…

It’s a choice. You don’t have to give up who you are. But you do have to work to keep it. Everything is a little bit harder when you have kids hanging off of you, but it’s all doable.

What do you think of someone who actually DID have cancer, but is in remission and still goes around telling people that they HAVE cancer?

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It's one thing to want to "have" kids, in the very passive sense, like you want to have a fancy watch. It's another to want to CARE FOR kids, actively, which women do from the first week of pregnancy.

Data?

Hahahaha!! That's where my 50,000 went! I thought I was paying it to the daycare provider over the five years it took three of them to get into Kindergarten. I can just sell their single closet full of toys on eBay and get 1/3 of it back then right?

If you have kids, he can stay home with them. The value of this should not be underestimated.

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It's really fucking disappointing to hear again and again that the friendly relationship you thought you were developing with someone has all been because they want to sleep with you. Then the response "Well, you should have known." At 30, ok, I get it now. But learning it sure hurt.

I think it's ironic that you give more weight to cultural conditioning because "as recently as the early 1990s." We have been and will always be bound by evolution. So maybe come up with a more credible reason to "go with" sexism. Or don't try to untangle them. Until artificial wombs are being used for literally…

I love Cate Blanchett, but I also really really enjoy Ever After.

I got divorced three years ago and just wrote my last (fingers crossed) check to my lawyer. What a boondoggle. I was very professional throughout the whole ordeal (taking the high road and whatnot- didn't pay off), which was an incredible feat, but I let it slip with that last $1,000 check with a note signed "Thanks…

Yes! Don't spread the hate!!!!

I think this is piece is missing the question mark about whether college will continue to be the best idea for everyone everwhere who wants it, based on the ever increasing pricetag with diminishing returns. I'm not acting like my kids WILL GO, because coming out with a liberal arts degree and $150,000 in debt is…

Beautifully said.

As the wonderful points below by bhix and the like show, the problem with this narrative is the same as with many others. Let's redirect from the victims onto the perpetrators. Men are raping. All of us.

Competition?