It is BIZARRE how upset some guys get when a woman's appearance isn't what they want.... they get violent. How dare she gain weight, how dare she not look flawless here, evil fucking traitorous cunt, hope she dies, hope she chokes to death on a burger when she should be at the gym, would not bang, etc. etc. etc. Why…

So many men feel like they are owed women's compliance in looking a certain way. I've seen men describe women who had no relationship to them whatsoever as "ugly" or "fat" or whatever, but the kicker was that they were angry about it*. They actually felt angry that a stranger was not pleasing them visually. Nobody…

Um, actually it's not about his penis. It's about ethics in journalism.

" You ever do some weird shit when you were a kid? "

Thanks for this thoughtful article. When I read through Twitter the other night, I thought, "I wonder what child psychology has to say about this specific set of behaviors and this age gap?" I am glad you pursued that line of questioning and got some answers. I recall as a child (4 or 5 years old) telling my mother I…

I'm pretty sure she's being scolded for the right reasons: i.e. being an oversharing, solipsistic, privileged twit who thinks every damn thought that crosses her brain is a Precious Pearl That Needs to Be Expressed to the World.

I didn't understand how HE would be a more suitable candidate as he wasn't the one asking for a procedure! But he would know his mind more I guess.

As part of this glorious struggle, may we also declare war on "The Elf on the Shelf", that elaborate hoax perpetrated on children to destroy their trust in grown-ups and train them to tolerate totalitarian surveillance?

You used the word "advent" in reference to chestnut praline lattes, but did not mention the original, original front in this battle … ADVENT! Four weeks is plenty of preparation for Christmas. Plus, if you buy your tree too early, it will dry out and catch fire before Epiphany. (YOU HEARD ME! EPIPHANY!)

I agree. I dont have a problem with anybody having a fantasy life, even one I don't get at all. But there's definitely a whole lot of unexamined privilege there. As a man, he won't actually become pregnant so he doesn't have to think about the fact that pregnancy and birth are difficult, painful and even…

And I think the sentiment is further problematic when he says later that most mpreg fiction ends at or soon after birth. Evidently, they don't take into account how having a baby really, actually changes your life, whether you give that child up for adoption, or become a parent. It's just pregnancy / birth make…

I agree. I'm not super cool with this either. I think your critique makes sense, and I also generally don't like the idea of an experience owned by women being co-opted by male fetishists. It feels like a privilege/entitlement thing.

Women get to have a life experience that men do not: they can carry a child within them that they will eventually birth. They get to bond with their unborn child and form attachments far earlier than men do with their children. Jealousy is not the emotion here; it's envy. Pregnancy is pure magic to me, and I envy…

I really like this blog posting on the topic of why Amanda Bynes shouldn't be a subject for entertainment: http://letsqueerthingsup.com/2014/10/16/its…

I completely agree, I don't think we should be talking about her like this. It feels click baity and exploitative and she's -suffering- right now.

Basically, this. I said it last time and I'll say it again now - mental illness is not something that should be laughed at, mocked, or gawked at. It's a serious, life-threatening disease. She is going through something terrible, and the whole country is basically pointing and saying "what a wierdo" or laughing. I…

That's well-put. Seriously. If I'm honest with myself, it's hard to even imagine what it's like to experience a mental breakdown under such intense and relentless public scrutiny, so I guess that's where empathy kicks in. Amanda Bynes only seems to be out of the news these days when things are going well, which they…

You're absolutely right and I brought it up yesterday during Tweet Beat. She's ILL, we shouldn't be talking about her in a gossip setting. Also, no, it isn't better that she's not in an involuntary hold. A judge releasing her is a legal tactic and isn't a choice made by her doctors and it's just indicative of how…

Knowing that people she doesn't know are watching and looking can't be good for her state of mind. In fact, it's apt to make everything worse.

Except Amanda Bynes is a Nickelodeon product.