But there is no expectation that people will behave decently. The artist who pioneered this kind of work has stated that she was shocked by how savage the participants were. She was stripped of her clothes, harmed physically and threatened with a gun during her performance. So LeBoeuf had to know this was a…

None of those things is the case here. LeBoeuf put himself in a room with this woman and the instructions that she could do what she liked. There were people outside the room. He does not at any time indicate that he felt afraid or even coerced — he didn't want to have sex with her, but refused to break character to…

We need to stop equating this with rape. The whole point of this exercise is to explore the boundaries of what one person will do to another when blanket permission is given. It loses some of the edginess when the risk is limited. LeBoeuf made artistic choices here — how he worded his blanket consent, whether to have…

But he explicitly consented to assault. This wasn't a person who'd ended up in a locked room with a bag over his head through anything but his own informed choice. There's a difference between being incapacitated or vulnerable and hanging a "victimize me" sign around your neck. Women don't get choices about being…

You can't consent to being murdered. But assault and rape are both crimes that require NON consent. If consent is coerced — someone says yes or remains silent to avoid other harm — or from an incapacitated person, it's not valid. But neither of those situations occurred here. LeBoeuf gave blanket consent and…

Yes, exactly! Because corny dad Obama is where I live. MissWHOA said "those are SUCH cute outfits!" MasterMan said "What's the point of pardoning a turkey, I can't even!" It's beyond surreal with teenagers.

I'm sorry your grandmother couldn't see past the bs 1950s norms to see what a brave and loving woman you are. Taking on an ex and kids is not for the faint of heart. We've managed to beat "the odds" (you know, the ones that say virgins have the most successful marriages) for going on 25 years now. I wish you all the…

You may be having trouble for the same reasons you think all of these things are going down in Ohio, not Missouri.

Yeah, because everyone has to forfeit all wealth for the last 400 years to prove they're not down with racism.

He's not having sex with her. He's going to sit across a table from her in a room full of other people for a few hours a week. If you want to be that "lucky", take a college class. You get the same level of interaction.

Are you kidding? This is BRILLIANT! I am bowled over, not only by the artistry, but the symbolism.

Of course you need a veil! How else are you going to trick the man you're marrying into thinking you're your younger, more beautiful sister? And if you can't trick him, how else is your dad gonna get another seven years of free labor?

Isn't it amazing how people who've "earned everything myself" forget the luck they've had? I had a brain injury at 40, ending a lucrative career. I needed my familiy's help for all kinds of things. I'm doing better now and I'm able to be here for my mom and MIL when they need help. Which they do, because they're…

And that's completely understandable. I am no fan of aging boomers who are discovering that their retirement funds will not pay for nursing care after 20+ years of cruises and luxury vehicles. Which is why I don't think that interdependence is a sign of immaturity or lack of character — society works better when…

It's not so much even a white American thing anymore, though. With the economy the way it is, it takes longer for people to become independent, even working hard. Having kids and finding quality childcare gets harder every year. And fewer older people have pensions or other resources to fully fund their declining…

No, not really. You're taking your own experience and trying to normalize it, is all. I'm as American as they come, but my family is pretty interdependent. If one of us needs something and another has it, we give it. Over the years, it's gone back and forth, but it's overall balanced. Our parents are getting older now…

You know, people bring that up so casually, "Why didn't you just bite off his dick?" Like it's no big deal. But biting off appendages is more than a notion. It's not as easy as you'd think watching Cannibal Holocaust. You can do thousands of dollars worth of damage to your dental work, which you may not be able to…

He's probably just referring to the experience, not the actual relationship.

I like crystal eye bling, personally. But get a tube of ELF eyelash glue and an 83 cent package of rhinestones from Walmart.

Oh god, don't say this because people will come out of the woodwork to tell you how judgmental you are. I dared make a similar comment about a woman who hired pet psychics to find her lost dog and you would have thought I'd suggested boiling puppies. People love their conspicuous consumption — as someone said, you…