This post makes YOU sound like an asshole, actually. Way to tone police.

Everyone involved in mental health believes in the human capacity for change, which is great and generally valid. But there is a reason why you don't see sociopaths on the street entering treatment. I'm sure you're a lovely person and a competent professional but a smart sociopath will use those qualities to make you…

There are institutions for the criminally insane, yes. There are treatments for kids who have conduct disorder, which is a precursor to APD. And people with antisocial personality disorder are often medicated while in prison. But there's no real treatment, just harm reduction. Part of the disorder is lack of empathy,…

You seem to think the idea of social obligation — on the part of ALL people — is laughable. Yes, if you feel the need to interrupt conversations about the drug trade, gang violence, human trafficking, etc. with the demand that the participants acknowledge that YOU, personally, are not responsible for said problems,…

I am not addressing any more of your comments claiming that I hate, am prejudiced against or want to lump together all men. Go find another straw man to box. Adults are capable of distinguishing between having a problem with an aspect of male culture and hating all men. If you can't do that, I guess you'll have to die…

NOWHERE have I said I hated all men. I don't. I am the wife, sister, daughter, mother and friend of many men. I get so tired of this straw man accusation of "Don't like male behavior? You must HATE ALL MEN!!!" Give it up.

I know I said that I wasn't going to respond, but I do have to observe that I've been on Jez for a couple of years now and NO ONE has ever spontaneously mentioned the book they were writing. Yeah, I did make up my mind when you mentioned the book in an article about a woman being murdered, just like I make up my mind…

Well, what I'm doing to decrease male violence is to volunteer with an organization that provides tutoring and support for kids with incarcerated parents. I also read to at risk kids. I'm raising a son who sees women as equals with a man who does the same. And I'm doing those things despite your contention that they…

I think the more likely reason you were misinterpreting what she said is that you're a self-absorbed narcissist who thinks writing a book is an excuse for ANYTHING. And no, I'm not the only person to have mentioned it. I read your other responses; you're saying nothing new. Why does Queen choose to pull you out of the…

If you weren't talking about using a gun in this situation, then why were you talking about it at all? This isn't a general gun ownership discussion, Captain NonSequitur.

Hey dude, it's not my argument and it's not my job to look up facts that might support your point. And I don't give a fuck about you rolling your eyes at me. I'm the parent of teenagers. I'm eye roll PROOF.

Cool story, bro. It doesn't apply in this situation where a) the child is IN the parents' bed and b) the intruder was standing RIGHT NEXT TO HER. So she's supposed to use a key to unlock a nightstand drawer and get her gun out, all with the intruder not noticing? And how could we make this situation even more unsafe?…

No, not really. If a woman had been raped by an intruder and was still talking about how she leaves her windows open, it would totally be appropriate for a cop to suggest she close them. It's when cops say things like "If your windows had been shut, this wouldn't have happened," that it becomes victim blaming. It's a…

Probably not so useful, though, if her child got ahold of it. In order to access it from the bed, the OP would have to keep it in a place where her daughter (who also sleeps in the bed) could get to it. And, given that more children are accidentally shot than intruders killed, logic would dictate she's chosen the…

Did you read the part about the child being in the room? Are you saying it would have been better for the OP to turn this situation into a violent, terrifying confrontation instead of successfully handling it in a calm way that did not disturb the child or startle the intruder? You'd rather traumatize a preschooler…

Nobody has said that every woman should have a big strong man around to deal with intruders. The OP said she was glad her husband was there are other people have echoed that sentiment. There's nothing anti-feminist with having individual preferences about how one lives one's own life. This article relates a very scary…

Look, we've all seen your arguments before. You obviously believe they are genius and well-reasoned rather than regurgitated MRA pap, but the rest of us disagree. It's not that any issue itself is out of date, it's that you have nothing new or interesting to say. It's all been addressed and the fact that you don't…

I don't get negative responses from men in my life because even the worst of them recognize how unseemly and exploitive it is to bootstrap bragging about their book on to an article about the murder of an innocent woman. And I don't believe being calm is going to help — you're sitting in front of a machine that will…

Nobody gives a fuck what you think. The arguments about #notallmen and #yesallwomen are widely available online. Read them and then if you have anything new to say, let us know. We're all tired of you three-months-behind assholes coming here like Moses off the mountain rehashing the same tired arguments that have been…

When she said assholes, she was referring to men who make stories about the murder of innocent women all about them and their ... book?! WTF? You're using this story as an excuse to humble brag about THE BOOK YOU'RE WRITING?! Could you be more entitled and self-absorbed?