It looks like we're getting the new Kinja "experience" tomorrow, so I suppose this is effectively my farewell as a commenter. From what I gather, the new Kinja makes it even more difficult for grayed commenters to get noticed, and I've never managed to make it out of the gray here on Jezebel. I feel like over the past…

I don't think Kim really "stole" her sister's bikini. They're obviously different sizes, so they probably both got the same bikini and wore it on separate occasions.

You can't speak for the entire feminist movement, though. True, rationally sound feminism doesn't discriminate against those who choose not to have sex, but in any movement there are people who take it too far. I've encountered plenty of "sex-positive" people who use sex-positivity as a way to attack people who don't…

For us, it's required core curriculum.

I can relate. I'm not a virgin, but I am someone for who really doesn't enjoy sex all that much. I was part of a social circle that was very aggressively "sex-positive" and I was frequently shamed for not having as much casual sex as they were and pressured into doing more. I pushed myself into several sexual…

But people should feel okay that it is a trivial thing to them. It just isn't a major part of life for some people, and that's okay.

Maybe I don't hear it because I'm on the other side of virginity now and have been for some time

Eh. I mean, I personally could never totally give up sex. But I don't feel like there's necessarily something wrong with someone who just doesn't feel the same. It's like what someone said upthread about the eat-to-live/live-to-eat dichotomy. I feel like people who would be just as happy to exist on protein shakes are…

Except feminists WILL shame you for intentionally being a virgin.

I completely agree with both your definition of feminism, and why there is a focus on the non-traditional route. However, in practice, I've read too many sex positive perspectives that straight-up declare there is something wrong with women who don't want to have sex. There is a genuine erasure of asexuality. Plus the…

That's true in theory, but in practice there's an unfortunate amount of virgin-shaming amongst these types. "Why, is there something wrong with you?" is a common question.

Empowerment looks different to different people. For some women, casual sex IS a way to empower themselves, own their sexuality, and make a statement against patriarchal notions of female sexual purity, etc. However, that is most certainly NOT universally true, and it sucks that you've come away from feminist…

Word. I think there is a tendency among some feminists to go all "mean girl" about sexuality, like, if everything re: sex and virtue is bullshit patriarchal construction, if you aren't fucking everything in site if you aren't in a committed relationship, something is "wrong" with you. I get challenging the slut/virgin…

sex can also be something that people:

UGH!

This was an excellent read.

She is not ready. Why should she have sex? Where is the baggage?

I was over 30. So, yeah, people did look at me a little weird. But, that is because they have an expectation they needed me to fit into. Generally, I'm not the type of person to do something just to fit some timeline or fit into someone else's understanding of what I need to do. Sex was no different.

Embrace what works for you. I lost my virginity at 22 (or possibly 23, I'm not sure?), and I am sensitive to the idea that virgins feel stigmatized because at the time I seriously felt like the Last Virgin Standing. What's interesting is that I realized [much] later that a lot of people weren't having sex, it just…