Omg, my therapist wants to do EDRM. Good for you!! I’ve been building up to it...

My fav book is Children of the Self Absorbed - I love all of your comments and feel a bit scattered today but this convo is so so good!!! My therapist explained to me that the label itself doesn’t really matter. Do they have a personality disorder? Who knows, if they do it will probably never go diagnosed anyway. He…

I love you! Not love love but internet love! I read Children of the Self Absorbed (life changing) and spent a lot of time on BPDFamily (online community with a message board for people related to people with borderline or narcissistic tendencies, lots of great resources).

This is a great comment! I’m sorry we have similar histories, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. When I first went no contact, I had a friend hassle the shit out me about it, arguing that her parents also treated her badly but she would never go no contact. She started telling me it was such a white person problem to have,…

I was going to keep reading but no, after this I’m done. This is the perfect ending to a jez bedtime story. 

I have never seen a drunk Santa. Have I missed out?

Yessss, we need a forever grey club 

This string was a++. I’ve always been in the greys and get a kick out of your strategies. Need to give more fucks to get ungreyed, apparently. Could also locate my password for my old account.

Yeah I never touch that shit!

You and me both! I have a seven year old who tried to negotiate for it so I’m feeling pretty confident. Also got him LEGO in case.

Totally! The whole “why is it always all about her?” And also the never ending pity party just got so exhausting. My life changing book was “Children of the Self-Absorbed”

The detail pic reveals his alien ancestry.

So are they just learning that assholes can be likeable?

That gave me the shivers. Fingers crossed for a good holiday season!

Scapegoating is important to narcissists and borderlines. It sucks that they were so deeply insensitive about your situation. I feel like family should treat you better than they would treat a random stranger asking for help at the grocery store. 

This made me think of the “this is water” YouTube video (David Foster Wallace). 

It really does! I love my life now, my heart is healed and I genuinely like who I am. I hope you find your way, too. If you ever need to chat, let me know! 

She is lucky to have you as a sister. Its wonderful that you accept her quirks and find a way to appreciate her even through her alienating behaviour.

I’ve noticed that some kids are naturally critical and ask questions from the very beginning whereas some will believe no matter what. Reminds me of religious discussions, honestly. I don’t tend to make a big deal out of Santa as my son has wondered if he lives in a police state in the build up to the holidays (“Is he…

I can’t even put into words.