I stayed home today because I had food poisoning that had me up late last night vomiting and woke me for more quality time with the toilet this morning. I messaged my supervisor right away, but still had a panic attack that my colleagues will resent me and I will destroy position at work (especially since a week ago I…

Maybe Kavanaugh can claim that his drunken sexual harassment and assaults were an extended performance piece.

Man, is this a timely article. My daughter is going to be 14 next month and I’m squarely in the thick of this with her right now. Over the course of the last 2 years I’ve watched her go from a confident, self-assured, relatively stress-free kid to an anxious, self-doubting, self-loathing, and generally all-around negat…

I think it is related. By age 13, of a girl hasn't personally been harassed yet, they will have seen other girls getting harassed.

This. I developed overnight @12 from a child to a child with the body of Rihanna (I’ve lost it since.) I can remember the exact moment my view of my body changed. A man @ the grocery store looked at me when I was reaching up for a can of peas, in a way id never experienced before. He was lusting after me and it…

My confidence def plummeted at puberty and never returned. Im 33 now and still trying to find it. 

I also dropped a class when my choices were: accept a low grade because my teacher-assigned group members were lazy and refused to do even a minimal amount of work OR fraudulently do their work, as well as my own, and post it under their names.

Perfectionism is a blight on (first world) humanity and it affects women more detrimentally than men. All these women I know trying to be the best at school, best at work, best mom, best cook, best homes with best husbands. They want the best bodies so they can still compete sexually—starvation diets and breast…

I remember in middle school and high school, I would only answer the teacher’s questions if asked directly—never if they asked the whole class. I had learned that if I got the question right, the other kids would make fun of me for being a know-it-all, while if I got it wrong, they would make fun of me for being a…

One problem is thst others expect women and girls to be people-pleasing. I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve had difficult customers and VIPs dumped on me at the office, snd if I don’t nod and smile and give them exactly what they want it’s somehow my fault. They even changed my role to include customer managem…

It’s probably the most important factor when you consider that this is also when a sizeable number of girls quit participating in sports.

Here’s some food for thought (it’s based on data from my adolescence, apologies if the SAT climate has drastically changed): boys typically do better on standardized, multiple choice testing than girls because they are more willing to take risks. They have been socialized to have the confidence to take the plunge and…

Darn right about the lasting negative effects of that people pleasing perfectionism. If one person anywhere wasn’t pleased with my great aunt you could be sure she would find out and focus all her attention on satisfying them. She was especially prone to this at work which meant that her career stalled -sometimes for…

If a doctor does it, it’s medication.

I got labeled mouthy in middle school and high school by teachers. Guys would be called spirited debaters and I would get called a nag or whiner. Then the criticism about my body started and it was too much. I got quieter until senior year when I ran out of fucks to give.

Funny thing about drugs that are strong enough to knock a person out. It turns out that some people are more sensitive to them than other people. For example this guy takes a Quaalude, or a Oxycontin or two, or a couple of Xanaxes, and all that happens is he gets high. This other guy takes the same amount of the same…

I hear you. But even if it does overlap with his potential jail time, it is still an important form of restitution to his victims (even if symbolic), and maintains and re-asserts legal precedent. If I were one of his victims (ugh, I hate that designation, but can’t think of something better atm), I wouldn’t want his…

But just to be safe, let’s designate him as a sexual predator. 

If anyone ever deserved that label, Cosby does. Violence isn’t just about hitting. Giving someone drugs to knock them out without knowing a thing about their medical history is every bit as dangerous as if you punched them unconscious.

He drugged and raped over 60 women, spanning decades. They should put his picture as the definition of sexually violent predator