That's a really good point. A lot of times when I've read about black men being lynched for rape the accuser was a white father or other male relative upset because he checked out their daughter or even, god forbid had a consensual relationship of some sort with her. It is more than a little disingenuous to act like…

Cops have a responsibility to not kill children in two seconds before they even a chance to drop the gun and inform that it is a toy. As for your last sentence, are you seriously arguing that people (kids at that) should be given the death penalty with no trial because he might commit a crime?

I wish Deadspin and other sports sites would be willing to talk about other sports besides football, basketball, baseball and hockey more often. I feel like sports that have a traditionally female fanbase like figure skating and gymnastics just get ignored by sports media. Out of the four dude approved sports I only…

I get way more stars on Gawker and Jezebel than Io9. Yet I get recommends and replies from authors much more often on Io9. Not that that's enough to get ungreyed. I've pretty much given up on getting ungreyed anymore. I really don't know what more I can do.

It really pisses me off when men bring up racism in order to silence victims and give black men a free rape pass. Most rape is intraracial so this attitude effects black women very negatively. How are we going to fix racism if we send the message to black women that in the interest of keeping black men out of the,…

It can be hard for anyone, whatever their gender to figure out where their personal problems end and societal issues begin. I haven't figured it out either. I have a history of disordered eating and body image issues. How much of that is because of a patriarchal beauty standard that values thin compliant women and…

I absolutely agree that it's important for feminists who parent, teach or otherwise care for children do their best to socialize boys as well as girls to not be required to conform to gender roles.

If you can't understand why access to birth control is an important health care issue, I was very much right about this conversation being over your head.

You don't listen do you? I never said feminism shouldn't be supportive. I've said over and over that we should be.

If you're not willing to listen to what feminists have to say, if you're not willing to grow up and stop looking at us as the enemy, that's on you. You're only proving my point that toxic masculinity won't change as long as men are expecting women to fix all their problems for them.

I said Scandinavia isn't perfect already. But they are far better than the US. It's not like I'm pulling this out of my ass. Every time countries are ranked by gender equality Scandinavian countries are clustered in the top ten.

I think this conversation is a little bit over your head. The position that feminism was only good in the past but now it's in danger of going too far is utterly simplistic. Equality is about more than just the right to vote and earn a paycheck.

When did I ever say men should be on their own? Did you miss how I wrote that I'm happy to be supportive and to be an ally? What I'm saying is that it's unfair to put the burden solely on feminists to fix men's problems. If men aren't willing to put in the work, there's not much I can do about fixing toxic…

Without touching your ridiculous argument that we're on our way to a capitalist matriarchy, I'll just say that I don't want a system that is skewed against men. I want a system that isn't skewed against anybody. Because capitalism requires a wealthy class and an underclass, equality and capitalism can never go…

I said this in another reply, but yeah, whenever harmful gender roles are discussed it always comes back to a criticism of feminism and its failure to completely change men. I don't know what we're supposed to do. When we try to speak with men who don't already identify as feminists about toxic masculinity even in…

Judging from a quick glance at your posting history you're probably offended by the very concept of feminism. I would say your assertion is more fitting of anti-feminists who expect women to fix all their problems and become enraged when women have other priorities besides boner pleasing and sandwich making.

You act like capitalism and communism are the only two options. Both are mid to late 19th century to early 20th century ideas. That said, just because early socialist thinkers were sexist doesn't mean socialism is inherently sexist. In fact all the socialists I've ever known were far more progressive when it comes…

Oh I agree. I don't think we should ignore toxic masculinity. I just don't think it should be all put on woman feminists to fix. It's not going to change until men want it to.

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I don't disagree with anything you said at all. But let's face it, when people talk about feminism needing to address the effects of patriarchy on men more, they're viewing feminists as woman. There's an underlying implication that lady problems are cute and all but we'll need to fix men's first. That expectation…