As a Richmonder, and hater of confederate mythology, the statue removals are long overdue, but that they are gone or going now is plenty of reason to be hopeful about changes that need to be made for the present and future.  I’ve loved watching them come down when I was doubtful it would happen. 

I’m so sorry. Your loss was profound and you know the heartbreak they are going through.   It’s hard but it’s empathy born of pain.  Take care of yourself.  It cn jolt your still raw pain in a way sometimes hard to explain.  ❤️

It really is. It’s totally wrong. Jesus Christ superstar seems inappropriate and on brand. Hair, too. I signed off fb with They might Be Giants “Your Racist Friend”. I thought I’d cut the shitheads out but people who were childhood friends, who had always been decent, they began covid bullshit, thought swabbing put…

Jinni! 

My marriage just ended tonight I’m pretty certain.He’s been hateful and cruel and said terrible things to me and somehow I’m utterly devastated.   I’ve been in a deep depression of late and he’s always been one to bring the worst out when I literally beg him for a little compassion while I ride it out.  I always hope…

Oh god those seat belt law people. I’m nearly 50. If you are about that age now or older, you are familiar with the people born before 1970 and a little after who say they rode in a truck bed across the mountains and lived. Kids these days are bubble wrapped diaper babies. You know those jerks, the survivors bias…

I just looked it up on IMDb and it came out in 85. I was still in high school when I saw it on video so that was like 87. I think I saw it after I was married but I was 21 when I got married. I am 50 in December. Even though I know these things are all true it seems impossible I’m so old that anything could have…

Oh my god! Is that Brazil? I think it is but I haven’t seen it in, wait, holy crap it was at least 25 years ago. Maybe 30? Regardless, I just felt super old and whether this is Brazil or not, I think it’s been close to 30 years since I saw it last. 

I live in Richmond, VA. My neighbor had a rat come into her home via her toilet yesterday.    I didn’t realize that was real and my knowledge of rodents  is limited.  I would not have released it, after ushering it through her home I am mwke shift maze to safety.  I’m horrified!

Where the hell does he find mock turtlenecks? He seems to wear them way too often.  His wife already said he cuts his own hair stray curl at a time bc he’s too impatient to schedule appointments. She said this when he was running for President. I’m sure he has a bunker and not a mere basement.  I’m also sure he can’t…

I’m right there with you. I can’t imagine how disgusting my shorn scalp would look. 

When I was a kid a neighbor reacted to his boys having lice by cutting their hair off with dog clippers.  They looked like that. 

Thank you!  I now this abuse. I’ve been in a previous abusive relationship and was a social worker. I’ve said I’d rather take a punch than the emotional abuse he doles out. I didn’t men it literally jut to make him know bad it is. I can’t take either and won’t. I’m leaving when I can. He’s getting worse. I’m getting…

My 28th anniversary was this week. I have been feeling unloved and mistreated and his drunken fits became incredibly cruel during the stress of selling our house and living in 2 different unsafe places short term until we bought the house we had our hearts set on. The stress and trauma id fought and overcome, which…

At least she wasn’t picking expired meat and seafood Walmart sends in what lcoo ked to be a non refrigerated truck that allowed by mullet king The generosity of giving his employees gives dibs on foul meat  before the animals get it  

Thank you. It’s so hard

Did you or she have cancer? I ask bc my husband is dealing with his radiation bon his tumor that was found on the nerve casing to his ear. He’s been angry sbout the tinnitus loss of hearing by being cruel and threatening. He recently shoved me and calls me names. He thinks is justifiable. I’m 49 married 28 years in…

I was sick all the time as a kid. My drunk unemployed stepfather was a pedophile. I would pray that it wouldn’t snow and he’d pass out early. But as my asshole mom would say, “ god answers all prayers but sometimes he answers with No. Fuck that. I worry about the kids and all people suffering abuse. This is a…

That was the worst few pages I’ve ever read. He wasn’t convicted so wrote a book about how he’d not make the mistakes “the killer” made. He’d do it differently. It was just such a vile concept and checked it out to see what way he was going. It couldn’t have made him look more callous and guilty if he tried. The…

Happy Christmas, sweet maya! You bring such brightness!