Well now that is interesting. For me, being silenced hours and/or days after the conversation in question is a very big deal indeed. It is anything other than benign. So, say what you will about me. Use whatever ad hominems you like. (I’m fat - you can add that to the mix. Enjoy). It’s very late and I must to bed.

Do you really not understand that dismissal IS veto authority? You don’t think, when you are having what seems to be a perfectly reasonable conversation, that you have to have a parallel conversation somewhere else just in case the first conversation is dismissed. And then you discover 12 hours later that the first…

The “silenced” refers to his habit of dismissing people he disagreed with. You cannot scroll past something that is not there. Because it has been removed by the person with whom you have been commenting. And it is not possible to comment elsewhere when the removal takes place hours or days after the conversation.…

I am a member of no mob, and no dogpile. I speak only for myself. And I didn’t say that his presence here was offensive. What offended me about his behaviour was that he silenced women who disagreed with him, hours and days after the conversations had taken place and for no reason other than that he disagreed with…

I’m not a “y’all.” I’m one person and I speak for myself. Trans women are women, full stop, and you are welcome here. As are cis and trans men. What you are doing is asking me to repeat what I have previously said. I will do it because you are very insistent (and, frankly, insulting) but you do not have a right to…

Isn’t it a space for women? Sex, fashion, celebrity, without airbrushing? It always has been primarily a women’s space, since it was set up in 2007. When did that change? (And Rich and Bobby have never silenced me. That’s the difference for me). I don’t expect you to believe me, but I don’t have a personal beef with…

Well that sucks if he got banned but he can just create another account, right, he’ll just be in the greys?

For what it’s worth, I am one of those burners (not to protect some secret main account, but because the vagaries of the greys system are absurd and I rarely have anything interesting to say) and this is a HORRIBLE outcome.

I never saw him shut any woman up.

Are you going to do this every time Mortal Dictata gums up the works with his hot takes? Because I’ll be here with a star for you every fucking time.

Anyone else stuck in this weird spot where you’re generally happy/hopeful about the direction your own life specifically is headed, but the state of the world and the direction its heading constantly drags you down, so you want to just completely ignore and shut out the news, but you feel an obligation to keep…

Are you asking about MD’s initial comment? I don’t think it’s this comment content itself, but the overall sheer exhaustion that, every time you go down to comments on a #metoo type story, MD’s the first to comment/top comment and for me, it reads as generic solidarity. The idea that the first/top comment on a story…

But think of the menfolk!

I was writing a response that was basically this, but not as well articulated. I hope you stay active here and comment more, I’d like to hear from you.

I think he needs to take a hard look at how and why he feels compelled to always be “FIRST” in any thread especially about a subject this serious.

I don’t want to argue with you, we’re all hurting and the above article only reinforces how little support victims of abuse, women or men, can expect from the world. I engaged with this comment drama because it is hard to watch from the sidelines, knowing that everyone involved (excluding the trolls, or course) is in…

Oh, sorry. I lurk from time to time so I might not catch every and any shit that’s been throw your way.

Dude, if you have a history of domestic abuse and there is a new perspective you want to give to the conversation by all accounts do it. But your original comment was indeed unsubstantial and added nothing to the conversation. I have a history of domestic abuse and I wasn’t planning on commenting on this article…

You’re such a fucking chode but I have to admit that I chortled at this.

Dude. This community is full of trauma, we come here to help each other.