I would add that you should trust yourself, LW. This guy managed to gaslight you into second-guessing yourself. The attempt to neg you by telling you he didn’t enjoy the date, followed by pushing you to share your reasoning and defend yourself are classic manipulation tactics. He picked up on your self-consciousness…

No one owes you an explanation for why they don’t want to go out with you again, or why they don’t want you to come back to their place. Frankly, it wouldn’t even strike me as like an “oh this person is afraid” thing, but simply that some people have a more personal relationship with their space and don’t let just any…

Or maybe Baltimore is indicative of police departments all over the country.

Goddamn how is this so hard to understand!? I’m lucky to have never felt traumatized by anyone’s treatment of me, but I’ve been in a million situations like this and it’s not until the last year that I’ve actually begun to understand the enormity of the power structure in place that leads to it. And I’m (again, LUCKY…

The conversation might need to less about labeling him a predator or a sexual harasser, and more about how we, as women, need to stop trying to be so concerned with people’s feelings and just leave a situation that makes us uncomfortable.

Would it have been better if they just published rumors that just happened to be true? They published a women’s account of being pressured into a sexual interaction she wasn’t comfortable with, and one in which the man repeatedly ignored her cues that she was uncomfortable. That’s newsworthy.

And that is why it pays to never trust any male, for any reason, ever.

This is the part that really grinds my gears. But I guess that implies it’s not just about seeing pictures of sexy naked ladies—it’s about the sense of power and accomplishment. (Which, honestly, seems to be the case with most—all?—sexual harassment/abuse behaviors.)

It would definitely seem that way, but these guys get off on humiliating women. Willing naked women don’t give these awful creeps any kind of boner.

You know, on one hand, I’m thrilled that there is some punishment for these slimy little fucks. But I can’t help but also be enraged that this happens all the time to us little normal people and no one seems to give a fuck.

I had someone post old nude photos of me online. I found out when I was pregnant. It was awful. The cops didn’t do anything because they were technically his photos and he was putting them all over local websites.

Can we get a picture of the hacker? I feel like he should not have the privilege of (relative) anonymity. I think it’s quite easy to find him on the internet (a George Garofano from Northford, Conn. of about the correct age), but I’m not totally confident in my people identifying skills.

All that effort to see someone who has the time/resources to come after you for hacking their accounts, when you can get terabytes of willingly-naked women for free.

This shit, revenge porn, and swatting needs immediate legislation to punish these people with real time.

It would suck to have to assume that everyone you knew may have looked at your hacked photos. I was pregnant when it happened and I felt such rage that I wondered if I’d damage my baby’s brain. These fucking creepy twerps had better have a really horrible time for the next year.

A fictional universe based and supposedly not too far off from our own...

Thank you! You stated the very real issues perfectly. This is not a trivial matter and should not have been treated so carelessly/ignorantly/misleadingly. I lost a lot of respect for Jodie Foster with this one.

Also right wingers rally politically against EC based on the idea that it’s abortion. So depictions of it on TV absolutely do make a difference.

Your analysis of this episode is bizarre.

I think the premise about the downsides of technology was a good one when the show began - but it feels forced by the fourth season. Every episode needs some tie-in warning about non-existent technology; in episodes like ‘Arkangel’ the tech is ridiculous, and in ‘crocodile’ what could have been an interesting…