My aunt STILL does this. She even addresses my mum (who kept her name and has a phd so is technically a dr) as Mrs Dad’s-first and last name. She’s not that old- I don’t get it

I think it’s similar in Australia. I’m a teacher who uses Ms (and does not intend to ever change my name should i get married). The number of my colleagues who are bewildered and seem personally offended by this is kind of baffling...

I’m planning on doing this, too, and the amount of pushback we’re getting is full on - people seem to take it as a personal attack on whatever naming choice they made. Glad to see there are other people who did this!

Oh, that thing about men having to be the best at their one damn dish they could make- that hit home! When I was a teenager, my dad (who is generally extremely progressive and able around the house) warned me off learning to make potato and leek soup because that was his dish. And he did not want me to outshine him.…

Yep, mine was raised the same as yours (Irish mother who never EVER let him do any housework). So, while he steps up a fair bit he has a way inflated sense of how much housework he does and totally expects a round of applause for almost everything. 

But how are we to do better? That’s my point. I don’t want to erase transwomen, but if we avoid using pussy hats or using the word vagina, it then erases or ignores real issues of importance to many women. For literally thousands of years, women have been told not to talk about vaginas. But people lives are literally…

I, too, hope I’m not a TERF but I’m also getting really irritated by some of my (also not trans) friends protesting the fact that some women wore ‘pussy’ hats. One friend said it was both transphobic and racist because not all women have pink pussies (but I mean hopefully no one has a fluro pink one- that indicates a…

Well, I’m an Australian who’s on the verge of tears here. Sadly, Trump’s presidency is going to affect more than the US. Not sure sheep farming in NZ will give you much respite...

I can’t really advise you what to do, but I’m in a similar situation where my boyfriend’s last name and mine would sound really bad if we put them together. So, our solution (well, honestly my solution but he has agreed) is that the kids will take my more unusual last name, and his last name can be the middle name.…

Yep, can relate to that! I’m the youngest of three, my siblings being 12 and 15 years older than me. I feel like I spent the first half of my childhood as the youngest, and the next half as an only child. Plenty of wanting to play board games but no one to play them with. On the upside, never had to fight over the…

I spent several years working at a research center, and people could be racist in the most random surveys. One lady did a survey about her local library and somehow made every answer about how much she hates asian people. The day I finished working there was a great day.

A bit off topic, but I have 3a/3b hair and people with slightly wavy hair constantly try to talk ‘curly hair problems’ with me, or claim that their hair is very curly. It drives me nuts! But it’s good to know I’m not just having run-ins with weirdos, but that a lot of people do this.

I had a job interview the other day where I got asked pretty much all of those questions. In particular, the interviewer seemed very curious about my ethnicity “are you mixed? what’s going on there?”. He then told me I would be expected to drink a lot, and told stories about inter-office affairs that worked out…

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I had a job interview the other day where I got asked pretty much all of those questions. In particular, the interviewer seemed very curious about my ethnicity “are you mixed? what’s going on there?”. He then told me I would be expected to drink a lot, and told stories about inter-office affairs that worked out…

Yeah, my boyfriend's last name is the same as a really prominent crime family in our area (and also hard to pronounce). So I think we should use my last name if we have kids. But his family are uber traditional, so it could be tricky.

I also went on the pill at 15 because I had insanely painful periods. The pill gave me nasty side effects but my dr warned me that if I went off it, I would return to painful (possibly worse) periods. Eventually though everything got bad enough that I stopped taking the pill and guess what? No more painful periods!…

When I was in high school, I used to take a public bus to school. This bus was always crazy busy, and mostly filled with students from my high school, plus some people on their way to work. One day, when the bus was at its busiest, a middle aged guy in a suit projectiled all over about 15 kids. Unfortunately he’d been…

When things are slow, my boss tells me to 'sit tight and look pretty'. He does not say that to the menfolk. I feel there's something off about this, but every guy I've told says it's just a figure of speech and the women tell me to just put up with it.